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Ep #1: Why You Aren’t Taking Action

Welcome to the very first episode of The Life Coach Schoolhg0088官方网站 podcast. I co-founded The Life Coach School with my husband, Chris Castillo and we created the school out of our love for life coaching and weight management coaching.

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What You will discover

  • The basic premise of “The Model” and how it reflects the workings of the world.
  • That we can control our thoughts, and our thoughts are what create our feelings.
  • How to change what you are thinking to achieve different results in your life.
  • That by changing your thoughts and feelings, changing your actions becomes vastly easier.
  • Why you MUST understand yourself before you can change yourself.
  • How asking yourself “Why?” is the best way to get to know what is going on inside your mind.

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Episode Transcript:

Welcome to The Life Coach School podcast, where it’s all about real clients, real problems and real coaching. And now your host, Master Coach Instructor, Brooke Castillo.
You are listening to The Life Coach School podcast with Brooke Castillo, episode number one. Hi, everybody, and welcome to The Life Coach School podcast. This is our first podcast that we’ve ever done, and I was going to spend this whole first podcast giving you an introduction to The Life Coach School and me and what we are all about. But what I decided to do is just give you something that you really genuinely want, which is a lesson. You’ve come here to learn something that we have to offer at the school.
So what I’ll do is, I will intersperse our story throughout all of the upcoming podcast, so you will get a sense of who we are and what we do and why we do it. But let me just preface all of this by saying that The Life Coach School was created because of our love for life coaching, and for weight coaching. I cofounded it with my husband, Chris Castillo, and he handles all the backend customer service technical part of our business, and I handle the teaching and the coaching and I think all the fun part of it.
So it’s amazing owning this business with my husband, we have just an amazing time together. So we really decided to do this podcast because I have so much to teach and so much to offer, and we really want to give you a chance to get to know us before you ever sign-up for a training, and we hope this podcast will do that for you.
So let’s start with the topic, which is today, which is why you aren’t taking action. I would say that constantly I get emails, and even when I’m talking to clients and talking to people, one of the most frustrating things for them is their seemingly inability to take action. They have all these dreams and ideas and things that they want to do, and they try and try and try to do them but they just can’t get themselves motivated to do it. And they always want to ask me why is it that I can’t eat only when I’m hungry? Why isn’t that I can’t exercise? Why isn’t that I’m not building my coaching business? Why is it that I’m constantly angry and I can’t be kind to my kids?
And it all comes down to the same answer, which I think is great to know. One of the tools that we teach, our main tool that we teach at the school is called the model, we call it the Self-Coaching Model. And it’s a model I created based on all of my teachers and all of my mentors and all of their ideas that were so brilliant, I’m heavily inspired by Byron Katie and Eckhardt Tolle and Abraham, and many of the forward thought thinkers of our generation.
And what I noticed with their work is, although I loved it all, I couldn’t find a daily practice that really resonated with me. So I decided to create the model as really a way to coach myself through my own thinking. And the basic premise of the model, which I did not invent, it is the basic premise of how the world works is this. There are circumstances in the world that those are the things that we cannot control. Everything that happens outside of us is a circumstance. And that’s just a given, there are so many things that we can’t control.
We can’t control other people, we can’t control our past because it’s already done. We can’t control anything that happened out there in the world, and those are all of our circumstances. And really those are the only things that we can’t control in our lives, the rest of the components of the model include our thoughts, our feelings, our actions and our results. And all of those things are within our control. Now we forget that often. We think that everything is either in our control or nothing is in our control. And it never is that way. It’s always that circumstances are not within our control, and everything else is.
So again, circumstances are other people, other people are not within our control. I’m sorry, but it’s true. They are does not. And the world out there is not within our control, and are past even though we keep trying to change it, it’s just not within our control to change, but everything else is. And everything in our present experience is within our control. What we decide to think, what we think about the conscious thoughts that go through our head are completely within our control.
Now we forget this, we don’t remember that everything is within our control. We think that our thoughts are not within our control, and in fact most of us don’t even know what we are thinking. We are responding to our thoughts that we aren’t even aware of.
Now why does this matter? It really, really matters because our thoughts are what create our feelings. And everything you do in your life is because you want to feel a certain way, every single thing you do is because you want to feel a certain way. That’s just really good to know. And if your feelings are caused by your thoughts and everything you do in your life is in order to feel better, wouldn’t it be important to know what you’re thinking? It absolutely would.
And the problem is nobody teaches us this. They don’t pull us aside and say, “Okay, here is the deal.” Everything you want in your life is because of a feeling. The feeling that you think you will have in getting it or the feeling you think you will avoid in not getting it. So if feelings are the most important thing, don’t you think they should teach us that all of our feelings are caused by our thoughts and maybe we should learn how to think on purpose, so we can create the feelings that we want. That would have been amazing. I really wish someone would pull us aside, freshman year. Freshman year, the misery of freshman year, and taught us this very thing.
So our thoughts create our feelings. Now our feelings are also important because they drive all of our actions. They are the fuel for our actions. So when you ask me the question, why am I not taking action? It’s because of the way you feel. Or why are you taking an action you don’t want to be taking? It’s because of the way you feel. So your feelings are driving your actions. And then, of course, your actions are always going to create the results you want in your life or you don’t want in your life. Your actions create your results.
So let me summarize this again, your thoughts, those sentences in your mind are what create your feelings. Your feelings are what drive your actions and your actions create your results. Now this is very clean and simple way of looking at the world, and it is 100% accurate. I have not found any examples where this is not the case. Everything you learned in all the cognitive thought work that you’ll ever study, I have a degree in Psychology, I studied at Santa Clara University. Everything they teach you is about your thinking, and your thinking creating your feelings, and your feelings driving your actions, and your actions given you your results.
Now what determines what we think? That is the next logical question. If my thinking is driving everything, if it’s creating my feelings, if it’s creating my actions, if it’s creating my results, then I need to know what I’m thinking. And I also need to know how to change that thinking if I want a different result in my life.
So most of us have never been taught to witness our own thinking to compassionately observe our own thinking, and it’s a practice that takes practice, really. So what I mean by that is the process of watching your mind think requires you to separate yourself from your own mind. And most of us don’t make that separation, we don’t even recognize that there is a separation there. So in order to go into that observer mode, we have to separate ourselves from our mind in order to watch ourselves think.
And this is what a lot of meditation is based on. And I’ve never been one that could just sit and meditate for hours and hours, but I can sit and watch my brain think, and I can be in that space of recognizing my own thinking. And once you start doing that, once you start noticing what your own mind is thinking, you might be a little flabbergasted. And you might also say to yourself, “Oh, will that totally makes sense?” When I’ve learned that my thoughts create my feelings and my actions and my results and then I look at my mind, I can see exactly why I’m getting the results I’m getting in my life. My mind is creating them, that’s where it’s all starting.
So a lot of students will come to me and they’ll say, “Okay, so I’ve had a look inside my mind, and I have observed it, and I don’t like any of it, and I want to change it all immediately.” And this is pretty common for all of us, we start looking at our mind, we start being more conscious, and it’s amazing that number of negative thoughts we have. We have like 60,000 thoughts per day. And if you’ve never directed your mind or never told your mind what to think, it may be thinking old thoughts from childhood, in maybe on a negative spin cycle, thinking a lot of negative thoughts. Who knows? It’s been an unsupervised toddler, basically running rampant.
I like to picture the mind when it’s unsupervised as like a two-year-old left in the house unsupervised. It may have sharp objects and maybe running around with them. And once you turn the light on in your mind, you maybe tempted to turn it right back off. And I’ve had this happen with a lot of people that I’ve coached. They start looking in their mind and they start recognizing how much pain they are in and how much negativity they are creating, and they just don’t want to deal with it. And that’s totally fine, but it really denies you of all of your power and all of your ability to change.
If you change in your life without understanding this, it’s much more challenging. And let me tell you why. Most of us try to make change from the action piece of our lives. So if you think about this, remember what I just taught you, your thoughts create your feelings, which drive your actions.
Now if you try and change or action without changing the thought or the feeling that’s driving the action, you’re going to have a struggle, because you’re going to have to work against that feeling and that thought that’s creating that feeling. So that’s why for so many of us change is so frustrating because we try to change how much we are eating or we try to change exercising, or we try to stop procrastinating without changing the thought and feeling that is driving that very thing that we are doing.
And when you can instead really get a hold of why you are not doing something or why you are doing something, then it will reveal to you the thought and feeling combination that’s driving it. When you change the thought and feeling, the changing the action becomes so much easier. That’s why a lot of people will, for example, smokers will be chain-smokers, they will try to quit many, many, many, many times and they have been unable to quit. And then they’ll get a diagnosis.
This happened to my mother-in-law. They will get a diagnosis of cancer or of something else that has been brought on by their smoking. And immediately they will be able to change their action, they will be able to quit smoking. What’s changed? The only thing that’s changed is their mind, they were told something that switched that thought in there and made it, so the feeling, and the feeling driving that action were completely changed. And therefore the ability to quit smoking became easier.
People that have been unable to quit for years immediately and cold turkey stopped for ever. This has happened over and over and over again with my clients. When they start to understand why they’re doing something or why they are not doing something, they understand their inaction or they understand why they can’t take action because of the thought and a feeling that’s driving it. And they decide to change that thought pattern and change that feeling pattern, they are able to change the actions so much more easily.
And that’s really what coaching is all about. It’s about finding the cause of our habits, the cause of our patterns, why we do what we do. And when we discover that, change is so much easier.
So let me give you an example, so you might be able to play this out in your own life because understanding this can change everything. And when you first hear something like this, you might be like, what the ... what is she talking about? I don’t know. Or maybe this is obvious to you, I’ve taught this to people who are like, of course, that’s how the world works. Isn’t that amazing that you’ve known that, why didn’t you share with us? Oh my gosh, I wish I could have learned this so many years ago.
So when you start to understand this, you can think about something in your life, and my background is in weight coaching. I started off as a weight loss coach, and I spent many years just coaching clients who wanted to lose weight. So I use an example there. And actually this example is also found in my book, If I’m So Smart, Why Can’t I Lose Weight? And you can get that in Amazon, if you would like to. And it just basically covers all my tools for weight loss.
But I want to give you an example to demonstrate how this, why you’re not taking action works? So I had a client who really wanted to start exercising. It was really important to her that she lose weight, she wanted to be healthier, so she wanted to start exercising. She wanted to start taking that action, and she just could not get herself to do it. She would write it all out, she would set reminders, she would get it on her schedule, she would plan it. Nothing. As soon as it came time to do it, she wouldn’t do it.
So I asked her to remember what I had taught her about how all of our thoughts drive all of our feelings, which drive all of our action, reaction or inaction. So in this case it was inaction. She wasn’t exercising. So I asked her, I said, “What do you feel when you don’t exercise?” And she said, “Right before I decide that I’m not going to exercise, I just feel apathetic.” I feel no drive at all. And I said, “Okay, what are you thinking that’s causing the feeling of apathetic?” So remember our thoughts cause our feelings, cause our actions or inaction.
So I knew that her feeling was apathetic, I knew that apathetic was creating this inaction, this lack of exercise. So I needed to find out what was the thought creating apathetic? And what we found out was that she was thinking it wouldn’t matter anyway. She had exercised before, she hadn’t seen any results, she didn’t really want to exercise, she didn’t see it as something that she enjoyed doing. She was telling herself that she had to do it to get results, and yet her thought was, it’s not going to matter anyway, which created the feeling of apathetic, which, of course drove inaction. It drove her not to exercise.
Now typically when a client discovers something like this, they want to immediately change it. What I told her is I said, listen, let’s just understand this with some compassion. So many of us spend so much time beating ourselves up, and it’s one thing I don’t allow any of my clients to do. I tell them, “Listen, hey, we are not going to beat ourselves up today, we are not going to beat ourselves up ever again if we can help it. What we are going to do though is understand with curiosity and fascination why you do what you do?” Because I believe that everyone has a really good reason for why they do what they do or why they don’t do what they don’t do.
And if we don’t take the time to really have some compassion and be curious with ourselves, we won’t reveal our truths to ourselves. So when she discovered this pattern, when she recognized that she was creating her own apathy, she was the one creating that emotion that was driving her inaction, she started to get mad at herself. And, “Oh gosh, I can’t believe I’m doing that.” And I said, “No, no, let’s wait a minute. Let’s have a look at this. If somebody told you that they didn’t think something mattered, wouldn’t you want to listen to them? Wouldn’t you want to understand why they were saying that? And let’s have that same compassion with ourselves.”
And that’s really what I think the most important piece of coaching is, it’s really revealing ourselves to ourselves and developing that relationship where we can trust ourselves. So she decided just to notice it, she decided to pay attention to it, and I asked her not to change it. I said I think for you to fully understand it, you need to be patient with yourself and fully understand the pattern, and why you are thinking that way.
And as she was able to watch this pattern in herself and see it with compassion and understand why she was doing it, and literally not doing it, she understood. And from there, when she understood like, of course, this is what you are thinking, you are exasperated with all of the things you’ve tried to do. You’ve been beating yourself up, you’ve been putting yourself on these crazy diet, you had been making yourself for years to crazy exercise regimes that were punishing and painful. And now, of course, you are apathetic towards it.
And when she was able to connect with herself, and give herself really her due to like understand that the reason why she was thinking that made sense, like of course that’s what she was thinking. From there she could really decide whether she wanted to change the way she was thinking or not. But you can’t really change your thinking until you understand it.
So in the upcoming podcast, we are going to talk a lot about how to change your thinking and how to think deliberately and how to create a motion that you want to create. But I purposely don’t want to go into that in this podcast because one of the things that I want you to understand, really to know is that you must understand yourself before you can change yourself.
You must be in a place of compassion and understanding and love, and from there you can ignite yourself to change. You cannot struggle yourself into change, you cannot beat yourself into change, it will not be permanent, and it will not last, whether you are trying to lose weight or you are trying to do something in your life, create something in your life, you can’t do it with force because you will buckle under the pressure. And you can’t do it with willpower because you are against you, you are trying to defeat your own mind with your own mind.
And the mind loves to repeat itself, it likes to look for patterns, and it likes to be efficient. So once the brain and the mind had been thinking the same thoughts over and over and over and over and over again because it’s been unsupervised, and it has … You haven’t even been aware that you are thinking these thoughts. To change it requires practice and skill. And if you’re trying to change it without understanding it, you’re going to be in a battle with your own mind. And, of course, when it is you against you, you are going to be the loser.
So I really want to emphasize that once you understand that your thoughts create your feelings, which create your actions, and that’s why you are not taking action or that’s why you are doing something you don’t want to do, that you take a breath, understand the pattern and not beat yourself up for it.
The other example that people always are coming to me with is overeating. Now remember if you are overeating, that’s an action, it’s fueled by a feeling, which is created. That feeling is created by a thought. So you have to back it up, what is this feeling that I’m having when I’m overeating? And most people will say anxiety, most people will say resistance. For some it’s frustration, for some it’s apathy, for some it’s hostility, loathing. Whatever it is, you need to not just try to stop overeating because you probably have and it probably didn’t work. You need to look at that action that you are taking and understand it, what is the feeling fueling it? And if it’s anxiety, then what is the thought that’s creating that anxiety?
And when you understand what you are thinking, and that that thought is creating anxiety, for example, one of my clients was having the thought constantly, I’m going to miss out, there is not going to be enough and I’m going to miss out. That’s what she was constantly thinking. She wasn’t aware of this at all. This was a thought she’d been thinking since she was a little kid, but it wasn’t serving her as an adult. So when she discovered that she was having that thought, she was like, “Well, that’s ridiculous. Why am I even thinking that? That’s so dumb, I’m just going to stop thinking that.”
And again, I told her, “Whoa, slow down the train. Let’s understand this thought, let’s understand this pattern before we just jump on, beating ourselves up over it.” Like let’s really see if it makes sense because usually everything we do, even if it seems illogical on the surface, we usually have a very good reason for it. So if we take the time to be curious and fascinated with ourselves, we can find that answer.
And for her, as a child there wasn’t enough, there wasn’t enough love, and there wasn’t enough food. So as an adult that pattern, because when she was a child, when she thought those thoughts, they created really strong emotions in her, the same thing happened to her as an adult. As she thought those thoughts, it created a lot of emotion for her. And that drove her overeating. So even when she tried to stop overeating, and she tried to replace it with there is plenty, there is so much food, it will be fine, she wasn’t going to be able to do that until she understood what the cause was.
And once she did then she could comfort herself and be kind to herself without using food, and without the anxiety that she was creating, she didn’t have the need to overeat. I have seen it thousands and thousands and thousands of times when you take the time to really understand why you do what you do, from there you can start to change it.
It doesn’t mean you have to go back into your past, it doesn’t mean you have to sit on a therapist couch and talk about any kind of anything that happened when you are a child. All you have to know is that the thought you are thinking now, and that you might have been thinking since you are a child is what’s causing your pain. You don’t have to understand exactly why you are thinking it as an adult, you just have to recognize that you are, and be kind to yourself in that recognition.
So let me just summarize what I taught you, because I gave you a lot in this first podcast, and I know for some of you who haven’t been exposed to me before, this might be mind-blowing; for others of you, this might seem very basic. But I want to take you through the process, and really make sure that you understand that every action in your life is because of a feeling. And every feeling in your life is because of the thought you are thinking.
So step one is to really begin to look inside your mind and see what you are thinking, to become conscious of your thoughts to ask yourself why. When it comes to anything in your life, if you ask yourself why you are doing something that you are doing, why you are feeling the way you are feeling, the answer that you give yourself will always be a thought. And that is the best way to get to know what’s going on inside your mind, because what’s going on inside your mind is what will determine how you feel, act and the results you get.
So practice this. If you look in the show notes, there will be an example of this model, the Self-Coaching Model, so you can see it visually. So you just need to go to breakawaydisc.com/One, which will be the first episode of the podcast, and you can go there and look at these show notes and get a sense of this model. And there is also going to be a blank sheet there where you can practice with something that maybe you are doing in your life that you want to change or something that you’re not doing that you want to change. Remember to be patient, give yourself a chance to really understand yourself, and only then can you decide if you want to change.
So that’s enough for the first session, I hope you enjoyed it. It has been my pleasure to be here with you and to begin this process of teaching you what we teach at The Life Coach School until next time, but that’d be soon. Bye.
Thank you for listening to The Life Coach School podcast. It would be incredibly awesome if you would take a moment to write a quick review on iTunes. For any questions, comments or coaching issues you’d like to hear on the show, please visit us at http://breakawaydisc.com.


  1. I was wondering if there was another word for being in anxiety for overeating. Or are there different kinds of levels of anxiety when it comes to eating. When I am having an episode of anxiety, I cannot eat at all. I have to force myself to eat something and it hurts my system.

    Thank you,


  2. Hi Lynne-

    hg0088官方网站This is such a good point. So many of my clients eat when they feel anxiety. They do it as a way to distract them from the anxiety. Anxiety is really a way of resisting emotion. I call it a cover emotion.

    And yes, other people find that when they are anxious they can’t eat at all. Especially with severe cases of anxiety, there can be tremendous weight loss because of this. Also, this is very common in anorexia.

    The ultimate goal is to be able to recognize the anxiety and drop in to really feel instead of trying to resist it.


  3. looking for show notes/model but cannot seem to find it on this page
    i would like to apply the exercise to my life … please advise

    thank you

  4. hg0088官方网站Hey Patricia-

    I put it up there. It’s called CTFAR model.

    hg0088官方网站Thanks for listening!


    1. Wondering if you can use this model when in grief ?
      Can I utilize this model effectively while grieving my husband and recovering from trauma and tragedy in the past year.
      Desperate to feel better and stop overeating .

      1. Hello Ami,

        Thank you for your question. Brooke will be responding to questions in an upcoming Questions and Answers episode. So please, stay tuned! In the meantime, I’d like to recommend you listen to podcast episodes and –Lori

  5. hg0088官方网站Hi Brooke –

    Thank you so much for sharing this great information!

    I just spent a six hour drive churning through a bunch of your podcasts and can’t wait to go home and do the worksheets as well.

    hg0088官方网站Your content is clear and easy to listen to and understand – and you answer every question I think of as you progress through the session like you are reading my mind.

    I can’t wait to put your advice to good use!

    Thank you again,


  6. Hi Christine!

    hg0088官方网站Thank you for your comments here, I really appreciate that you are enjoying the podcast.

    Look forward to talking to you more!


  7. Hi Brooke!

    I heard you mention a few times that you had a problem with being overweight, and that through healing your thoughts, you released the weight.

    I am currently trying to do the same, but I am having a hard time letting go of idea of my trusty food log (which I hate), to serve as the actual vehicle to losing weight. I can’t seem to find any other way to do the actual job of taking off the pounds, even though it’s brought me much more negative feelings than any other. I am trying to find the correlation between healing the mind like you teach, and releasing the weight, because in my mind, I still don’t see how healing is going to actually help me take weight off (although maybe it will prevent any more weight from going on). Since you have been through this already, I was wondering if you could give some insight to how you handle the actual food and actual eating.

    Thank you for all you do!

  8. Hi Beth!

    hg0088官方网站Again, Check out upcoming episode on Weight Loss I created just for you!

    I will answer all your questions there!


  9. Hi Brooke

    I’m really enjoying listening to your podcasts – thank you.

    hg0088官方网站I’m really inspired by the idea that happiness has nothing to do with what is going on externally in our lives. I’m a big advocate of meditation, which also focuses on the principle that we control our happiness by changing our thoughts, and that we should live in the present moment.

    hg0088官方网站I’m currently training to be a life coach and am struggling to reconcile how the principles above fit in with the idea of ‘goal setting’ – which relies on us looking forwards to the future, and imagining an ‘ideal life’, rather than living in the present.

    hg0088官方网站If our happiness has nothing to do with our circumstances, then what is the purpose of setting career goals/ wanting to make more money/ deciding to make changes to our lives? And if we dislike something in our lives (for example a job), then how can we decide whether we should be changing the circumstance or just our thoughts/ attitude about it?

    I’d love to know your thoughts.

    Many thanks,

  10. Ohhhh Beatrice!

    I love this question.

    hg0088官方网站It assumes that the reason we set goals is so they will make us happy in the future when we achieve them.

    This is what most people believe goals are for and they aren’t.

    hg0088官方网站Goals, although set in the future, create thoughts in our minds now.

    hg0088官方网站Those thoughts are either awesome (we believe we can achieve our goals) or terrible (we are filled with self doubt).

    hg0088官方网站Either way, they reveal the content of our immediate mind and the beliefs we have about our capabilities.

    hg0088官方网站Growth and evolving are the point here. Happiness is how we can feel through the whole process.

    When we think about our future, we are still in the present. In fact, how we think about our future reveals who we are in the present.

    And changing our present is always something we can do, but I recommend we only make changes from a place of happiness. This prevents us from believing that changing the thing is what will make us happier. We can be happy without changing it, but we still might want to change it. That is what living from abundance truly is.

    hg0088官方网站Thanks again for such a great question.


  11. Hi Brooke,

    hg0088官方网站So I started listening to your podcasts on long car rides and I have to say I am enjoying them immensely. They are extremely engaging, easy to listen to and grasp and definitely leave you with a lot to reflect on. The topics you discuss are so important and I wish everyone would listen to your podcasts and learn these simple, yet profound and life changing lessons.

    hg0088官方网站The idea that our thoughts dictate our feelings which drive our actions is a very basic concept, but one that I think many people don’t know or don’t apply to their daily lives. I have been paying attention to my thoughts more, and where my mind goes to. Understanding how I think about situations and the thoughts that I fill my mind with has been making a big impact on my emotions, my individual days and in turn my overall life.

    hg0088官方网站I really like the piece about paying attention to your thoughts with compassion and aiming to understand them, not judge them. I can be very critical of myself at times and I am learning to treat myself with the same compassion and patience I extend to others.

    hg0088官方网站Thank you for your podcast, and all the wonderful information you are making accessible to people. Your work is of great need and the world is much better off because of you.


    1. Colleen,

      hg0088官方网站Thank you so much!

      hg0088官方网站I agree, we should all be taught these basic truths in school.

      Be compassionate. You deserve it.


  12. Hello and good morning,
    I have listened to all of the podcasts throughout the last 6 or 7 months and now have decided to go back to #1 and put into action.
    I listened to this one and my brain finally hooked on to some things that had not been happening in the past. Particulary what you said about people that overeat tend to do that when feeling anxiety. I thought about this and relaized that wehn I feel like overeating I am usually feeling anxious and may other things all at once it seems. Anxiety being the most prevalent but I am usually feeling anxious about many things at the same time and cannot break it down to one to run the model. What is the best course of action in this case? The second part of my question relates to the model and trying to change a thought that you feel you are not quite wanting to change. For instance something at work happened yesterday and I did not feel good about the result but then when trying changing my thought to have a better result, I felt resistance bceause I think that I was right. Thank you for all you do, you rock!!


    1. Hi Alissa!

      First, love that you are going back through and taking action. Brilliant.

      Second, before you can access what is causing your anxiety, try to feel it instead of eating.

      This will be uncomfortable-but it’s a practice.

      Then, from there you will be more able to access your mind. But,for now, stick with just feeling it and allowing it instead of eating.

      hg0088官方网站For your last question, your awareness is a huge part of this. You just knowing that you would rather be “right” than feel good is huge.

      So I would explore what it means to you to be “right”. And why that’s so worth it.


  13. hg0088官方网站God bless you ! Your words were so soothing I am in a state of calmness now! Thankyou for revealing it to me that I am not my mind.

  14. If I ask you what will be the best technique for me to acheive what I am aspiring for would you please help me as a coach ?
    I am a boy in my early 20’s persuing just a sole goal which requires elephant hard-work atleast 12 hours of self studying. There are about 10 different subjects for which I have a year to prepare. I have a notion that if i will score well in all of the exams the life would open for me all the vistas of happiness that I have been dreaming for since childhood!
    My problem are that I always make plans and then do nothing. I find it impossible to resist when temptations trigger me. I sleep 12 hours a day. My intuition tells me that ” I am going to be rich and successful person in my future.” But when I analyse my actions I feel absurd! This has become my routine behaviour for many days now. I am despising myself, actually !

    1. Azhar,

      hg0088官方网站Pick one thing at at time you want to do. Give yourself two full weeks to complete it.

      hg0088官方网站Then feel the accomplishment of it. That will help you gain some momentum which will help with motivation.


  15. Hi Brooke,

    I have been listening to your various podcasts by choosing a topic that I wanted to hear, but not going in any certain order. Today I found and listened to #1 for the first time as I drove to work. I have listened to you talk about the model before. I have used it, and thought I got it, but listening to you this morning, it was like I heard you talk about it for the first time. I almost cheated myself in thinking ‘I know this, I don’t need to hear it’! Wrong!, I heard you speak of the ‘action’ in the model. I continually keep wanting to consistently make good choices with my weight, coaching and even in making my marriage successful, but I quit before I really begin. It was a lightbulb moment. I see that I can’t take consistent action toward my ideal result if my thoughts and feelings don’t align, My thoughts and feelings have to point me toward the action that I want. I will now use this knowledge as I work the model, without beating myself up. It will take time and patience and a lot of kindness.. I am getting closer all the time. Also, thank you, thank you thank you for offering these podcasts to us. I feel blessed to listen to them. I just put them all on my iPod and I am enjoying and learning with them. I plan to really work on podcast #1 this week before moving on to another. Debi

  16. hg0088官方网站i think you’re a genius brooke castillo!

    i’m eating this stuff up!

    and i’m so grateful to you that it’s all here, for FREE!!?? WOW!!!!

    thank you,


  17. I have just started listening to your podcasts while I walk over the past few weeks. I am loving them and just wanted to thank you for doing it each week! I started with the first one but then have been skipping around a bit because I wanted to hear Lessons from Byron Katie (loved it!) and the other teachers you have featured as well. I have now recommended them to at least two other people I know will really benefit from them and signed up for your newsletter as well. You have a way of making all of this very real and ready to implement. Thanks!

    1. Mickie,

      hg0088官方网站Thank you so much for taking the time to post and let me know.

      So glad you are enjoying the podcast.


  18. Hi Brooke,
    You are amazing, I have been listening to your podcasts.. you have helped my son and a lost 24 year old. I have been able to pass on your podcasts to help others with their lives. You have also helped me in my life too.

  19. Hi Brooke,

    hg0088官方网站Thank you so much for your awesome podcasts.

    I have listened to many coaches, but you are the first who has truly resonated with me. Everything you say is so clear and makes perfect sense!

    hg0088官方网站I am trying to work on a project which will give me financial freedom, but I am really struggling as my thoughts are I can’t, and it’s too uncertain so just carry on in your 9-5. I know I need to use CTFAR but I keep hitting a wall!

    Thanks so much for making me understand everything thus far, and for speaking to all of us like an individual xxx

  20. Starting over again and working through each podcast. Been studying Abraham for 3 months and will continue to take in those teachings, but want to go back through your work over the summer.

  21. I’m dealing with so many feelings of worthlessness. I just got a job (I’ve failed in having my own business twice) and I’m happy about that, but am worried I’m going to commit some act of self-sabotage. I am heartbroken after being completely rejected by my son’s father (who already found a new girlfriend) and I’m overeating. And since I haven’t been working, I’ve been isolated, alone on my couch for most of my time the last few months. I’m in a bad way.

    Today I found your podcast and I feel hopeful for the first time in a long time. I listened to the first 2 episodes. I can see where my feelings of worthlessness are driving my actions. Thank you so much. This is the first time anything has really made sense to me. Thank you so much. I think you just helped jump start what I needed to completely change life.


    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Beki, thank you for your comment. I will address this on an upcoming podcast so stay tuned!

  22. Brook
    I just by chance saw a post on Pintrest. I have since been so blessed by your words of wisdom and hard work. I have been working on myself for a long time. I have abuse in my background and gone to several different councilors. They did give me tools to start but never really got results until I did the work to change my ways of thinking. I have told several people how much I love your podcast. How I wish I had them when I was in my 20’s I have daughters that I am now sharing your words of wisdom with so that they can break free from my past that has been injected into their future. I love being a coach for them. I just want to share the wealth in a way that is not telling them what to do but listening and suggesting a thought in a kind and loving way verses how I would have done in the past told them how to fix it for them. I also believe if we show love to others that have hurt us it takes their power away learned this the hardest way. There is Power in our thoughts. We can do anything if we don’t let fear get in our way. I am involved in a women’s ministry and I look forward to using my new found coaching skills to help others I am on the pink cloud I have drank the kool aid ! May God bless you and your family as you have truly blessed mine. Thank you!
    PS Sorry so long but you said you wanted to hear from us. lol

    1. Susanne,

      Thank you for taking the time to post your feedback. Brooke reads (and is incredibly grateful) for all of these comments. We are so happy to hear her work resonates with you and that you are sharing it with your family and ministry. Stay tuned as Brooke addresses this in an upcoming podcast.


  23. I just re-listened to the first podcast this morning. I first listened a few weeks ago when I wasn’t able to write down any reflections or really let it sink in. It’s been a couple hours and I had an urge to write down thoughts I was having. And then I felt an urge to come here and thank you for what you’re doing and what you’re saying. I’m learning about myself and am terrified and excited for this adventure.

    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Victoria,

      Thank you for taking the time to post your comment here. Brooke reads all of these and certainly appreciates the feedback!


  24. hg0088官方网站I just wanted to say, I have been listening to Brooke’s podcasts for about 3 months now and have told many friends and family and they have also downloaded. Just decided to go back to the First and actually do the work it takes to make a change and not just listen passively. Thank you so much for having such a fabulous format. Now the real work on myself can begin!

    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Marilyn,

      Thank you for being a loyal listener and for sharing the podcast with your friends and family. Brooke certainly appreciates it!


  25. hg0088官方网站I have such a connection to your model and views. Also to the fact that you include a focus for coaching weight loss. There are other schools out there, but none that I have found the immediate connection and like-mindedness that I find here. I very much look forward to finding an opening at The Life Coach School to complete training and begin helping others find the way back to the core of what is driving their feelings and reality. You’ve even inspired me to dig out my copy of Eckhart and reread. Excellent, excellent, excellent. Love from a fan and future Life Coach.

    1. Hi Joann,

      Thank you for taking the time to post your feedback. Brooke reads all of these comments and certainly appreciates them! We look forward to having you on board for a future in-person training!


  26. Really honing in now in on the model for my (self) coaching training.
    What Brooke gives away on the podcasts can easily be missed at first listen.
    Eventually we’ll all be working together someday changing our corner of the world with these simple concepts.

    Life’s simple. But no one said it was easy.

    Just a THOUGHT. 🙂

  27. hg0088官方网站Hi Brooke,

    hg0088官方网站We are renovating our house in Sweden (long term dream!) and while I painted our doors this summer, I listened to lots of podcasts including the episode you did on The Lively Show. It left an impression. Then this autumn, I did the Life With Intention Online course with Jess, and through that process, listened to my intuition consciously, and allowed myself to dream about being a life coach, and I set up a new website to record my explorations (I was finding wordpress really clunky, and thought I would try out squarespace).

    Since then, I started listening some of your Life Coach School Podcasts. Then I found your ‘How to Become a Life Coach ‘. I have learnt so much! I am really grateful that you make the time and put so much effort into your podcasts, so thank you! In one of them, you said that if you want to become a life coach, first you have to coach yourself. And it’s best to pick one teacher and stick with them rather than going all over the shop as they will contradict themselves.

    hg0088官方网站So I have done just that. For now, I’ve stopped listening to the ‘How to Become’ and I have set myself a ‘Coach Myself’ project. My plan is to listen to all the Life Coach School episodes (I calculated 103, so roughly one a day) by 1st March. I will listen to a podcast in the morning, write up the notes as a blog post, then do the exercise and write up my practice and reflections that evening.

    I wasn’t intending to share these posts with others, but in one of the episodes you asked about our plans, so I thought I would share them here. (When I set up as a life coach, I think I will stick with squarespace as I enjoy it much more than wordpress and I will point my squarespace page to my domain etc but for now, I want to keep this more private/for people that are also coaching themselves). So here it is

    I intend to do further projects (coach others and create a life coaching business). So here goes!

    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Hedvig,

      Thank you so much for the feedback! So happy to hear the podcasts have resonated with you and that you have a Self Coaching plan in place.

      Carina | The Life Coach School

  28. hg0088官方网站Wow, I just discovered your podcasts. For someone who is prone to depression and terrible at managing my thoughts, I think these podcasts will be a godsend. Thanks so much for sharing your insights and wisdom.

  29. hg0088官方网站I am just beginning the life coach/entrepreneur career path. I have no idea what I’m doing or where to begin, I just know it’s my passion and life purpose. This first podcast was absolutely wonderful! Thank you so much for doing this for people like me. I am so excited about learning from you!

    1. Hi Nickole,

      So exciting to start a new career path. You’ll want to check out Brooke’s Podcast “How to Become a Life Coach” as well:


  30. Brooke, This letter is long overdue. Long story short. I got it! Back in 2012, I hiked the entire Appalachian Trail (AT), all 2,184 miles of it from Georgia to Maine. It was the dream of a lifetime and the hardest thing I ever did. Over the course of 6 months, 3 weeks and 2 days, I lost about 50 pounds of unwanted weight. It wasn’t the first time I lost more than 50 pounds intentionally or unintentially.
    When I returned from my grand adventure I told myself an untruth, but I didn’t know it at the time. I told myself that my husband had been so great to support me emotionally for this entire time that I couldn’t think about leaving again – this was the beginning and ending of my adventurous life. That was not the circumstance, it was just the meaning I gave it. In 2013, I did go on a two-week backpacking trip and then back to celebrate the AT at the annual Trail Days festival. It was great fun! On the last day of the festival I developed a pain in my right shoulder that progressed over the next 7 months into Rheumatoid Arthritis.
    I had taken a healthy body, made it healthier on the hike, and then with my thoughts I invited disease into my life. For the next year and a half I lived in a state of pain and what I learned was depression. As I am not normally a depressed person I didn’t recognize it for what it was until I got better. And I have you to thank for providing the information I needed. I have learned so much from the 107 podcasts you have brilliantly produced.
    This is how it happened. I was helping my husband build a pergola by applying the wood sealer on cedar lumber. While doing this for 2 to 3 hours for several days in a row, while binge listening to your podcast, starting with #1 Why You Aren’t Taking Action. After about 3 days I realized the deep message of these podcasts and I thought I could really benefit by sitting down daily and listening to one podcast, take notes and do any activities that you suggested.
    And I was right! I could feel myself growing stronger and more in charge of my life, my thoughts and my actions. On 7-13-16 I weighed 178 pounds and spent 2 months before hearing your message losing a total of 7 pounds. In mid-August I discovered a new diet plan that focused on diet, exercise and a positive mindset. It made sense.
    After hearing your teaching I started a new routine. Every day I sat with my 3-ring notebook and listened to your podcast; I did the exercise you suggested; and the notebook grew to include my goals, gratitudes, and 25 things I appreciate about myself. I included a weekly weight loss chart that I used to plot my weight loss success. I gradually increased my activities to include an hour walk 6 days a week. I ate the food plan and I had “your model”. My days flowed by, I learned to sit with fearful thoughts/feelings and grew.
    The absolute truth is that the excess weight just fell off me. I lost 40 pounds and reached my weight loss goal within 4 months without strain. It was when I started living again I realized I had been in a deep depression and mentioned it to my husband. He said he was so glad to have me back. And to think it all started with a “wrong” thought. I continue to listen and re-listen to your podcasts.
    hg0088官方网站 I have to say that when I started this journey with you in August I decided it would be good to have someone to talk to along the way and started working with a therapist. I told her about your podcast and how much I was learning about my thoughts. I still can have some “wild” thoughts, but with your model I am usually able to see what’s going on and come out of the wrong thinking by myself. Your self-coaching model works. Thank you for the most valuable tool in living a mentally healthy life. I’m dreaming up new adventures for my life, because it’s not over by a long shot.

    1. Hi Jann,

      Wow! Thank you so much for being a loyal listener of the podcast and sharing how you have benefitted from Brooke’s work. Brooke appreciates it very much.


  31. Hi Brooke,

    I first wanted to say thank you for the life-changing and inspiring ideas that you share. I have listened to your podcasts over many miles while running and I’m now listening from Episode 1, sitting down (!) to take some action and put the model into practice.
    I have many skills but have suffered from low self esteem and anxiety and have found your approach and concepts extremely helpful in beginning to address my thoughts and feelings and the effect they’ve had on my life.
    I had a quick question: I am sharing your ideas with my 10 year old daughter, and to me it makes sense to have this outlook from a young age. Have you ever considered creating material for children?
    hg0088官方网站 Thanks once again.

    1. Hi Dee,

      Thank you for being a loyal listener of the podcast. It’s so great to hear how much you have benefitted from doing so. Great question on creating material for a younger audience. Brooke will address this in an upcoming Questions & Answers episode. Stay tuned!


  32. Hi Brooke – I have been listening to your podcast for probably about two years now. I’ve listened to almost every single one of the thus far 119 episodes (minus only a few with weight-loss specific titles… although I have no doubt there’s much non-weight specific wisdom to be gleaned in those too). Anyway, just writing in to let you know that while I was a passive listener, jogging while tuning in (like Dee who commented before me), for almost the entire two years; I just recently (as of about threw weeks ago) had the long-time-coming breakthrough where what you were saying actually *clicked* (FINALLY!). That has led me here, back to the beginning, taking notes and actually filling out my first few CTFAR models. Having had that “aha” moment three weeks ago has been a real eye-opener and will (I assume), with consistent practice, be a life-changer results-wise too. Thank you for what you do (and how extraordinarily well you do it).

    1. Thank you for being a loyal listener, Ian. So happy to hear you are applying what you’ve learned from Brooke.


  33. hg0088官方网站Hi Brooke, I just stumbled onto you and your podcast searching subjects on the podcast app. The minimalism episode caught my attention. I have subscribed to your podcast and you tube channel. One message of application and not just consumption resonated with me. I have decided to give it 90 days of a single teacher, weekly concept and daily application. I’m starting with the woo hoo episode number 1!. Thank you. Jim

    1. Sounds great, Jim! Thank you for tuning in and committing to the 90 days of applying what you’re learning.


  34. I’ve just started listening to your podcasts and am getting a tremendous amount of benefit from them already.

    I have a question: At the beginning of the podcast, are you saying “Time to drink”?


    1. Hi Kristen,

      hg0088官方网站Thank you for the feedback. Brooke appreciates it!

      hg0088官方网站I’m not sure what you mean about “time to drink”, but the transcript is posted below the episode. Hope that helps clarify it.


  35. I’m now on to Podcast #9: Jealousy. I’ve really been enjoying all the podcasts. This first one, I listened to multiple times, I was really experiencimg some trouble and difficulty after the end of a relationship. Brooke​ has such a great way of putting the ideas of focusing your thoughts and feelings where is is so easy to understand and relate to. This series of podcasts has been a real game-changer for me. I still struggle sometimes, but that’s ok too.

    1. Hi Dara,

      hg0088官方网站So glad to hear Brooke’s work resonates with you. If you’d like to take what you’re learning on the podcasts to the next level, you should check out Brooke’s Self Coaching Scholars program here:


  36. Hey Brooke,
    hg0088官方网站 I came across this podcast a while ago and have listened to it here and there until recently where I decided I need to put in the work and not just listen to a podcast on and off.

    I have some questions and you may have podcasts out that covers these topics already but here goes,

    1. In the past I have used over working as a vice. I don’t overeat or over drink so all of my life my productivity has been my escape. This has been confusing for me to get to know myself because to me and a lot of society productivity = positive. So, I didn’t view my need to be productive and work my ass off as something I was doing to escape feeling. Until I slowed down and then was hit with the worst anxiety Ive ever had with my life. I crave everyday to put myself into a situation where Im so busy that I don’t feel this way anymore. Is this typical? Do you come across situations like this often?

    2. After reviewing the model I realized I’m very good at naming my feelings and feeling my feelings and I realized that all of my life Ive tried to change just a feeling usually with resistance but because I’m strong willed I can usually do it. But because Im not changing the thought behind it, is this why I relapse into my anxious ways over and over again? Ive always considered myself to be in touch with myself because Im in touch with my FEELINGS but I think Im not because turns out Im not in touch with my THOUGHTS. And I’m actually not sure how to access my thoughts yet but Im practicing.

    You should do an episode on emotional relapse because I bet this happens all the time.
    Thank you

    1. Hi Abby,

      Thank you for your questions. I recommend the following episodes: #132: Stop Buffering and #138: Feeling on Purpose

      Hope that helps answer your questions!


  37. hg0088官方网站Hi Brooke and Team,

    Loving the podcasts. My question is really a technical issue about the podcasts

    hg0088官方网站Is it possible that they could be made available via ‘TuneIn’ application. I would love to have this via a Sonos system, which only has tunein.

    Many Thx
    Ian Hunter

  38. Hi there

    I was wondering how to change our negative thoughts that we have grown up with. Would positive affirmations help change our thoughts?

  39. hg0088官方网站Hi Brooke – your podcast has been immensely helpful to me – thank you! I was just wondering where I can locate the document mentioned in your first episode. It said there was a blank practice sheet in the show notes, but I don’t see it anywhere. Thanks for your help.

    1. Hi Rachel, it is the CTFAR Model doc in the show notes towards the bottom. It is download. –Rebekah

  40. I want to respectfully disagree with your post. I find we influence each-other a lot more than we realize and that its actually not always clear where one person ends and another begins. I’ll give you an example, I was really skinny, like 102 lbs, and then I moved in with my mom and I gained a lot of weight. Its hard when she cooks up all these tasty meals rather than rice and beans five days a week.
    hg0088官方网站 So for the person wanting to lose weight, I would say, get new exercise and diet obsessed friends and get your family on board. Its a lot harder when they cook up a bunch of food you find irresistible and then insist you come to the table for the social aspect.

    1. Thank you for taking the time to give us your feedback. Brooke appreciates it! –Brecklyn

  41. Hi, I’m a little confused about the worksheet. Is the CTFAR sheet the only thing to download? I’m not understanding what I should do with that, it doesn’t seem like it’s a worksheet that I should be writing on?
    hg0088官方网站 Thanks for any help or direction.

    1. Hi Becky, you’re right, the CTFAR download is a visual to make the model easier to understand. To fill out a model for yourself simply write CTFAR down the left side of a piece of paper. If you have more questions about the Model, I recommend listening to and .

  42. I just recently started listening to your podcasts. A friend of mine turned me on to you and I am glad she did. I am in a difficult transition at this time. I have had medical issues for over 35 years. I have Crohn’s Disease and in 2014 I had Illeostomy Surgery. I have had many ups and downs, but this past year has been extremely difficult for me. I am depressed and anxious most of the time. By listening to your podcast, I realize that my thoughts are creating a great deal of this depression and anxiety, however, I don’t sleep well and haven’t for several years due to my disability.
    I want to change all of this and take time for me. I recently decided to leave my part-time job working with the homeless population. I have been in Human Services for about 25 years and it is really taking a toll on me. Although I am scared about my financial life, I know this is what I need to do. I do have income from SSI, but have needed part-time work in order to support that income.
    I think I really would benefit from having a life coach, but am not sure if I can afford the classes. Is there any way you can give more information on the cost and if there is a payment plan. I really need your help! I am scared all of the time about what will become of me if I can’t change where my life is heading. Thank you so much.

    1. Thank you for sharing, Mary Ann. You can learn more about Brooke’s coaching program, Self Coaching Scholars, . You can also look into working with one of the coaches she has trained . –Brecklyn

  43. Hi Brooke,

    hg0088官方网站I have been listening to your podcasts and trying to catch up. I have only been up to number 65 so far. I feel that I owe you so much for sharing all the knowledge you have. As you mentioned in your podcasts you give these out for free so the least we can do is give comments which is actually a good thing for us anyway.

    I am nurse that works in the community. I drive all day and so I listen to your podcasts each time. I do a lot of health teachings and I am hoping that somehow I can influence my patients the same way you have influenced me.

    hg0088官方网站You know when I started listening to the podcasts one of my workmates I sounded like someone doing a lot of self help and I should be careful not to look selfish because of it. I am not really affected by what she said because its about her thinking not me. But I can’t understand how would someone think a person can be defined selfish for learning to do a lot of self help.

    1. Glad you found Brooke’s podcast and are enjoying it! Thank you for sharing. –Brecklyn

  44. Hi,

    Love this episode. I have listened to it over and over again.

    hg0088官方网站Is there a blank CTFAR form?

    1. To fill out a model for yourself simply write CTFAR down the left side of a piece of paper. If you have more questions about the Model, I recommend listening to “The Self Coaching Model and : The Self Coaching Model–A Review.

  45. Hi,
    I’ve been listening to your podecasts and want to thank you for your generousity. I’re a great help for me and I hope the Universe gives you get the just compensaton for so many pearls of wisdom you’ve been presenting us all.
    hg0088官方网站 Thank you, thank you, thank you

  46. Hi Brook.

    hg0088官方网站Thanks for making this available to everyone. I started to listen to your podcasts today while on the road. The way you put stuff makes is so easy to understand. The mind is such a powerful part of our lifes that can make or break us.

    The idea to work back from the question why I am doing wat I am doing or not doing is a new concept for me. It opened a new line of thoughts that will keep me busy for a long time.

    hg0088官方网站Thanks for the profesional way you do things.

    Looking forward to the rest of the podcasts.

    André Steyn – South Africa

    1. Great question! Brooke may address this in an upcoming Questions & Answers podcast. Stay tuned! –Brecklyn

  47. hg0088官方网站Brooke, you are awesome… I have made it a routine to listen to your podcast daily.. You so inspiring…

    1. hg0088官方网站Glad you found Brooke’s podcast and are enjoying it! –Brecklyn

  48. Not sure how this ended up in my Facebook feed but loved the podcast. We never were taught how to control our state of mind either. It is easy to be distracted and not change the things we need to.

  49. I just would like to share what just happened to me with you guys, because I know you will completely understand me.
    This morning on my way to work I listened to this episode 1 for the second time. I have been listening to Brooke for months and had quite a lot of ah-ha moments, but today it was next level ah-ha.
    I’ve been trying to understand why I overeat, why I can’t stop eating when I’m full on +2 of the hunger scale. My mind says stop eating because you are on +2. But I can’t stop. On this episode, listening for the second time, I listened in a different way. Brooke gave an example of a client that was overeating because she found the thought of “there is not enough food”. That hit me in a way that made me observe my own thinking in why I overeat.
    So I start doing a thought download about it. I remember when I was around 5 years old, my dad lost his job, my mum was a housewife and we didn’t have money to buy food. She used to say to us (me and my brother), don’t eat too everything today because we need to eat tomorrow. We might not have enough food tomorrow. We used to eat only beans and leftover foods from a food market that was near home every Thursday. So my thought of “we might not have enough food for tomorrow” made me feel deprived. Because I don’t want to feel deprived, today, I overeat.
    This pattern was until now on the autopilot, in the dark, and I NEVER realised that I was thinking that way every time I was going to eat.
    I felt into tears writing that and remember things that my parents used to say when I was just a child.
    OMG!!! I am very excited to understand and to start changing this thought pattern that I have for 28 years. I’m excited to see the new results and what I can do with my life from now on.
    hg0088官方网站 I’m grateful everyday for finding Brooke and her podcast. It changed my life. WOW thank you so much for sharing so much with the world Brooke.

    1. hg0088官方网站Hello Pamella,

      hg0088官方网站Thank you for your wonderful message. It’s so wonderful that you had that aha moment. Brooke appreciates the kind remarks!


  50. Hi Brooke, in your podcast you mention that wouldn’t it had been great if someone had pulled us aside in Freshman year and taught us that “all of our feelings are caused by our thoughts and maybe we should learn how to think on purpose, so we can crate the feelings that we want”
    hg0088官方网站 As an educator and a mother this resonates with me. Can you share some research and resources that is relevant to teenagers/youth and how your life coaching skills apply? Hell yeah! I wish someone had pulled me aside as a teenager and taught me some of this…and I wonder, would I have been “ready or open” to receiving the message? I am now at the age of 43, but wish I hadn’t saved myself some years of suffering. And had tools to navigate my thoughts and feelings and consequently my actions and inactions. Thank you so much for your podcasts. I also am starring over from episode #1 and being more intentional and curious about the research.

    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Jennifer, Thank you for your question. How wonderful you want to help teens! Brooke will be responding to questions in an upcoming Questions and Answers episode. Stay tuned! –Lori

  51. I just listened to Episode 1 last night. It was mind blowing for me. It’s like everything completely came together for me. It all made perfect sense. I immediately my boss and friend to tell her how great it is and that she should listen too. I can’t wait to hear the rest. Thank you so much for this wonderful material!

    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Becca, Thank you for the feedback. Brooke appreciates it. Glad to hear her podcast has been helping you during this time in your life and that you’re loving it. –Lori

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  53. I Brooke,

    What can I say? you are amazing, you completely changed my life and blowed up my mind. I am grateful every day.
    I know your podcast for few month now and I would like to share it with everyone because I know it could help a lot of people and particularly some of my close ones. I am French and the persons I know could benefit a lot from your lessons are French, so I would like to translate your podcast to share it.
    Maybe record it like I am your voice. I understand perfectly your message by the way you speak and the example you pick. What do you think about it?
    Would you be ok with me translating and recording your podcast? of course you’ll be cited and all the credit are yours 🙂
    hg0088官方网站 Let me know I would like to follow your advice and take massive actions and not use “I don’t know” as an excuse.

    hg0088官方网站Thanks for eveything.

    Love you,

    1. I’m so glad you’re enjoying the podcast, Marie-Anne! We will not be translating the podcast, but we would love to have you join us as a Certified Coach where you can learn all of Brooke’s amazing material and how to make a podcast of your own! –Felicia

  54. Hi, Brooke:
    I was recommended your podcast because I am interested in becoming a life coach. I’ve listened to a few different coaches so far and I have to say, I love your work!! I listened to some of the new episodes because those were at the top of the website but then I liked them so much, I’ve started listening from Episode 1 onward. The concept of “your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings guide all of your actions” really speaks to me. Your way of explaining these concepts with metaphors and real life examples is very clear and helpful – I can see why you have a large following.
    hg0088官方网站 Thank you so much!


    1. Hi Hannah, Thank you for listening to the podcast! I’m so glad you’re enjoying it. Brooke appreciates that. –Felicia

    2. Hello,

      Thank you for your reply. I would love to join Brooke on one of her session, but I am living in France and it won t be possible for me right now.
      I would like to translate it in french and record it like I am Brooke’s voice. I am sure some of my friends and my family who are not understanding english, could really benefit from Brooke’s advices. It could change their life as it did for me. Have I your autorisation to get out my confort zone and do it ?
      Thanks for everything

      1. Hi Marie Ann, We will not be translating the podcast in French, but we would love to have you join us as a Certified Coach so that you can share everything we teach! –Felicia

  55. Hi Brooke,

    First of all Thank you for providing freely and willingnly all this valuable information’s. I have been listening to your podcasts on and off , just recently i went back to your contents and try to apply them rather than just listen to them. I understood that our thoughts drive our actions therefore understanding , realizing and embracing them, is in a sense eradicating our setbacks and obstacles of achieving anything we thriving for.
    hg0088官方网站 how can i tap into ‘the real’ thought that is driving an action? how can i determin that it is this particular thought that’s causing certain feeling and as result certain action? what is the efficient way to practice this? by’this’ i mean : separating the “self” from the “mind”?

    Thank you

    1. Hi Majida, Thank you for listening to the podcast! Thank you for your question. Brooke will be responding to questions in an upcoming Questions and Answers episode. Stay tuned! –Felicia

  56. Hi. I started bingeing podcast episodes a month or so ago and I’m up to #121. I listened to the podcast a few years back but hearing these again has been sinking in like it didn’t the first time and it’s really been a part of keeping me happy and cozy this winter, so thank you! I’ve heard the Model explained several times and I thought I understood it, but over the past week I’ve been having a hard time understanding the difference between the Circumstance and the Results. I understand actions leading to results, and the circumstance leading to thoughts, but once we get to the Results, aren’t we right back at the circumstance? Can the Result be different from the Circumstance?

    1. Hi Jennifer, Yes, something can be either a circumstance or result. For example, I weigh 135 pounds. That can be the circumstance where I am starting, or that can be the result I’ve gotten. There are so many ways to use the model to study ourselves and help us create anything in our lives! –Felicia

  57. Started listening to you about 6 months ago. Listen to all of your episodes. (1-250) Now I am beginning again with the intention of application. Thank you for this model.

  58. I’m a little late to the party. It’s now March 2019.
    I discovered Brooke a few months ago through Amy Porterfield. After listening to about a dozen of the most recent episodes I decided that I have to go back to the very beginning and learn everything this amazing woman has to teach.

    Brooke, Thank you so much for this body of work. Thank you for showing up and sharing so much wisdom and making the world way more awesome!

    1. Thank you for listening to the podcast, Lily! Brooke appreciates it. PS. You’re right on time. 😉 –Felicia

  59. Hi!

    I discovered Brooke today through my coach and decided to start with the beginning!!
    I was wondering, she was talking about an example of the self coaching model and a blank sheet to practice, is it still available?

    This first podcast really resonated in me and I’m looking forward to listening to the others!! I don’t want to be just passively listening to them though, I wanna get into the action as I’m progressing with them!!
    Thank you very much, it was very illuminating!!


    1. Hi Nadia, Thank you for listening to the podcast! You can find the CTFAR Model doc in the show notes towards the bottom of the page. It is a download. –Felicia

  60. Hi Brooke. You have over 250 episodes now with your podcast. I can’t get passed the first 20 or so. Not out of difficulty or anything, I just keep going back and listening to the first several over and over. There is so much info there! It challenges my intellectualism, which I feel has been missing from my life for a long time. This is not about me being a life coach, I’m not. This is purely for my personal growth. Thank you!

    1. hg0088官方网站SO good, right?! Brooke appreciates that. Thank you for listening, Ryan. –Felicia

  61. I have been unable to purchase Brooke’s book “If I’m so Smart” off of Amazon. It says it’s unavailable for purchase. Is there another place to purchase? Thanks! =)

    1. hg0088官方网站Thank you for your interest! You can get If I’m So Smart, Why Can’t I Lose Weight . –Felicia

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