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Ep #115: Generosity

hg0088官方网站There are so many people who constantly feel resentful, worried, and full of scarcity. I truly believe that generosity is the answer to that problem.

Often, people associate generosity with someone who has a lot of money. However, generosity is  not something that we do or we arehg0088官方网站 because of our circumstances. It always comes back to the way we think about and view the world.

hg0088官方网站This week, we’re taking a deep dive into what true generosity is all about and why so many people get it wrong.  Joins us as I explain exactly how you can give freely (whether it’s money, knowledge, or time) without ever feeling resentful, and reap the immense benefits of that deeply fulfilling process.

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What You will discover

  • My definition of generosity.
  • Why you should never expect anything in return when you give.
  • Why so many people feel resentful when they are being generous.
  • What takes me out of my willingness to be generous.
  • When generosity is not appropriate will not have any positive effects on you.
  • The immense benefits of giving freely.

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Episode Transcript:

hg0088官方网站Welcome to The Life Coach School Podcast, where it's all about real clients, real problems, and real coaching. Now, your host Master Coach Instructor, Brooke Castillo.

Hello, my friends. How are you guys? I'm amazing. I really am. I'm having a great day. Let's talk about generosity. I love this topic. As I was preparing for this topic, I couldn't believe how many ideas and different concepts came up for me. I just want to have you guys sit back, relax and enjoy. Thinking about this maybe in a whole different way. A whole different way for yourself because I deal with so many of you all that feel resentful and full of scarcity and worries. I think generosity is the answer. Now, when you think of someone who is generous, I think a lot of times people associate generosity with someone who has a lot of money.

hg0088官方网站We can all think of someone who has a lot of money who isn't generous at all. Right? They have plenty to give and they don't give it. We can all think of people that have very little money who are incredibly generous. I think understanding that generosity is not something that we do, is not something that we are because of our circumstances. Right? It always comes back to the way we think about and view the world that will determine if we're feeling generous and therefore acting generous. I do this worksheet with my clients and with my students called your top three feelings worksheet. Very rarely have I had someone choose that one of their top three feelings that they want to feel is generous.

I think it's a mistake because I think the feeling of generosity is so amazing and so great and it causes you to show up in the world in a different way than if you don't feel generous. If you guys listen to my more recent podcast on money, I think I was taught to be generous by my mom, who is very generous. It's one of things that I hear about myself most often from people and it's one of those things, what's so interesting about it is people will say, "You're so generous," I don't feel as if that's a compliment in the sense that, "Wow, I really deserve that compliment." I just feel like it's who I am. It's just I notice that I'm generous too. I love being generous. Generous is amazing. It's like when someone says you're having so much fun. I guess that's a compliment, you're having so much fun but it's also, "Yeah, that's just how I roll." Great.

I want to encourage if you haven't thought about yourself as a generous person and you haven't thought about being more generous in your life, I want you to think about it. Now, when I bring this up to some people they'll say to me that it's hard for them to be generous because they end up feeling resentful. I'm going to address that a little bit later in the podcast. When I bring up the word generosity, you feel like clenching and you feel yourself going to resentment, I'll explain to you why that is. Before I do that, I want to talk about how I define generosity and how I can help you get more of it in your life, feel more of it in your life and therefore act more of it in your life.

hg0088官方网站Generosity is when you give more than is expected or is necessary. The way I want you guys to think about this is generous would be on the F line of the model. That would be your emotion would be generous and then your generous giving action would be in the A line. You give more than is expected or is necessary more than as usual. I think when you're feeling generous that's when you act in that way. Now, the piece I really think is really important to add that wasn't added in the definition that I found was yes, you give more than people expect and with no expectation of anything in return. I think that's what true generosity is. I want you to imagine that you are going to give someone $5,000.

You have $5,000 that you have to give away. You want to think about who you're going to give it to and then you want to think about giving it to them. Now, if it's truly from a generous heart you will expect nothing in return. Now, for some of you, you will think in your mind, "No, I would give them $5,000 so they could pay their bills and I wouldn't expect anything in return." When I say don't expect anything in return, I mean even a thank you. I mean even an acknowledgement. I mean even a nod. Even that they tell anybody. Even that they share with you what they purchased. Right? Expect nothing. Are you giving someone $5,000 and expecting that they'll pay their bills with it and they go off and buy themselves a Louis Vuitton? Notice how any kind of expectation that you have for the recipient takes away your enjoyment of the giving.

hg0088官方网站I don't think that's giving from generosity. People would disagree with me but this is my philosophy, right? When you give, you give with no expectation. That is true generosity. So many times I like to give anonymously because it feels so amazing. I love to pay for the person behind me in Starbucks that's going to the line at Starbucks. I love to pay for the toll behind me when I go through a toll bridge. I like to pick up someone's check without them knowing who picked it up. I really like doubling the tip on a waiter or a waitress or even giving a $20 bill to a valet or to the guy bringing up my bags. That's with no expectation of anything in return. Especially. it's really interesting… I've talked about this before on the podcast when I pay for the toll behind me or I pay for the Starbucks behind me, I don't even look back. I have no expectation of how they'll respond.

hg0088官方网站Some people track me down in their cars and honk and wave. The question then becomes why do we give, do we give because we want someone's acknowledgement? We want someone to recognize us in a certain way? We want someone to think about us in a positive way? Are we giving because we want that person to do something or we want to control an outcome? Do we give because it just feels amazing to give? I talked about in the last podcast how giving and being in spirit of giving and being in a spirit of service is what creates and can create a lot of confidence because it takes the focus off of trying to control the world and it takes the focus off of trying to be different than we are and just focus on what we have to give. I think that is the spirit of generosity is what do we have to give and what is our reason for giving. I will tell you that my reason for giving is it feels amazing to give.

I love giving and I love giving anonymously. Now, I have recently been challenged with this and I think it's important to bring this up. My generosity is giving freely because it feels so good. I have a friend who I feel has gotten into the pattern of expecting me to pay all of the time, expecting not to reciprocate. For example, if we split a bill and I'm not drinking right now…if we split a bill and they've had a cocktail and I haven't, who cares we'll just split the bill but then when we split the bill the next time and I've had more and they've had less then they want to have separate checks or whatever. I've noticed that my spirit of giving with this person is challenged and is more resentful. I started to really explore why I don't want to give to someone who I experience as entitled.

hg0088官方网站It takes me out of generosity and puts me into expectation. I expect to them to reciprocate that. I expect to them to act in a different way. I expect them to pay me back or acknowledge or whatever. When they don't, then I feel resentful until I've left my spirit of generosity and moved into that spirit of scarcity. I've noticed this with people like my customers and people in my life who…I had a customer say to me and I thought this was so fascinating, a customer had listened to my podcast on weight loss and as you know, those of you who listen to the podcast regularly, I offered then a paid webinar that went into more detail on the material that I had presented. The person signed up for the webinar and said, "I really got so much from all of the free material and I felt like the webinar didn't provide me with that much more so I would like my money back."

I felt…I had this moment where I was like, "Oh my gosh that's so interesting. This person feels entitled to all of my great stuff for free." Right? They don't want to have to pay for it. I had this moment where I was like, "Whoa, that's so interesting." Because for sure I felt myself going, "Wait a minute, that webinar was packed with material way more material than what was in the podcast. What is she even talking about?" I found myself, "What?" Then, I went to this place like, "If you got so much value out of the podcast and it changed your life so much then why are you asking for your money back for the webinar?" That doesn't make any sense to me. I clenched up. Normally I'm very generous when it comes to someone's unhappy but this felt to me and this has nothing to do with the customer, this felt to me like the customer was very entitled like, "I expect that the free stuff should be great and that the paid stuff should be a certain way or I'll get my money back."

I noticed myself clench up and I took a minute and I said, "Of course," because my team was asking me, "What do you think? Should we give them their money back?" Because there wasn't a money-back guarantee at all in that and I said, "Absolutely." I dropped into this place of this woman is loving my material and wants it and is obviously benefiting from it and that's the place where I want to come from. I want to come from that place of generosity and giving freely and giving anybody who's unhappy with anything that I do, freedom to feel how they want to about it. I noticed with these two different instances it was one of my customers and sometimes I feel this way with some of my students, this sense of, "You owe me."

hg0088官方网站Have I created this situation by being so generous with my free material, have I created this situation where nobody wants to pay for it or they expect me to just keep giving to them for free? Does that create an issue? Has my generosity then created a problem? What I've come to know after coaching myself is that no, that is not the situation. The problem is me when I lose sight of my generosity because my generosity has nothing to do with what I expect the person to do with it. If I expect them to be appreciative, if I expect them to, yes, of course support me, if you listen to my podcast all the time for free then of course expecting you to support me in my paid stuff…if I get into that place I'm going to start feeling resentful if you don't. That takes me out of my generous spirit. It's the same with my girlfriend. I'm happy to pay for the meal. Happy to pay for it.

Why am I letting myself get into this nit picky entitlement thing with her? I sat down and did some work on it and I just thought, would I rather debate the bill with her or would I rather just always pay and just let that be enough and just always be the one that pays and come from that space of generosity? The truth is for me if I really am being honest with how I want to feel in terms of generosity, I always want to be the one that is paying, I always want to be the one that’s giving more than is expected. I do not want to be the person who is finicking over the bill or debating a refund with someone or anything like that. I always want to be the one on the side of generosity and I don’t want to be the one on the side of worrying about how someone is reacting to what I’m providing so generously.

hg0088官方网站Both of those situations were real big lessons for me in terms of like, “Really Brooke, like, are you going to step up into this place of generosity and let that be who you are because you enjoy it so much?” I really decided that “yes.” Now, there are times when generosity is not appropriate when the reason that we are giving is not honoring ourselves and that’s why it’s creating that resentment. For example, if you are giving to someone so they will like you, if you are giving to someone so they won’t upset you or they won’t be upset with you. If you’re giving to someone because you don’t want to have a confrontation with them then you’re coming from that place of negative emotion and you will not experience the bounty that is generosity, you will experience resentment.

hg0088官方网站If you want to be someone that comes from that place you really need to check yourself when people react in a way that’s unexpected. It’s one thing to give with no expectation of anything in return. I do like it when you guys give me reviews but I certainly don’t expect it because we laugh about it all the time because if I did I would be disappointed all the time because the number of listeners that you all are and the number of reviews I have is poultry. If I don’t expect it, then I won’t be disappointed. I won’t feel resentful. I won’t feel upset. If I give with just the only expectation that I will feel good giving, then I can come from that place of beauty and I love it. I love creating my own experience of contribution by being generous and when something comes back at me that triggers me to think of thought that denies me of my own generosity like these examples that I’ve just given you.

I really need to settle into myself because I notice myself getting resentful and angry and I think a lot of people feel this way on a consistent basis who are never generous. Because they feel like anytime they give to someone it’s not appreciated and the reason that they want to give is because they want to be appreciated and that’s where we get locked into this problem. When I ask myself how important is it for me to be generous, the answer is very important and the reason is because of the way I feel when I feel generous. I want to identify that as one of my main character beliefs about myself and so I can feel that way on a regular basis. I want to confront all the areas in my life where I don’t feel generous, where I don’t want to give and I want to make sure I really like my reason.

hg0088官方网站With my girlfriend who’s kind of nitpicking the bill with me, my reason for not wanting to be generous with her is because I’m resentful and I do not like that reason. That’s on me. I need to do my work. She gets to be whoever she wants to be, if she wants to feel entitled, if she wants to nitpick the bill, if she wants to argue over the bill, that’s totally fine with me. If she wants to expect me to always pay for whatever reason she has, that’s okay with me, right? I would rather pay from a place of generosity or I’d rather split the bill and talk about the bill from a place of generosity than arguing about it and feeling in a place of resentment about it or in a place of entitlement. Because as soon as I think she’s being entitled then I start acting entitled, which is the last thing I want to do.

hg0088官方网站Think about that in your own life, where are you being generous and where are you giving literally for the sake of giving? You’re not giving for anything in return and I will guarantee you that the places in your life where you are giving with abandon, those places in your life where you are feeling generous are the places that are giving you the most back, maybe not in that same way, right? If you give $5,000 you’re not getting 5,000 back but that feeling of giving someone $5,000 is amazing if you can release any kind of expectation on that. If giving doesn’t feel good, your reason for giving is problematic and if you deny yourself at giving out of resentment I think you have work to do.

hg0088官方网站Any situation that you go into is an opportunity for you to give and just notice when you ask yourself, “What do I have to give to this situation?” Many answers will come and it will create so much confidence and empowerment within yourself. Now, a lot of people, myself included, associate being generous with money and I think the more generous we are with money the more money we will end up having, I genuinely believe that. I think the more generous we are with our material and our time the more interest we will have in our material and in our time. I think the more contribution we make generously to the world the more that contribution will bring us endless amounts of joy. I feel like, as humans, we are wired for generosity and wired for contribution and when we prevent ourselves from showing up generously and when we prevent ourselves from making contribution we just die a little bit inside, right?

hg0088官方网站I notice, for me whenever I feel like, “Oh, hell no. I’m not paying for that,” or, “I’m not giving that to them.” Whenever I get into that space with myself I feel icky and scarcity and yucky, right? Whenever I’m in a place, “No problem I got the bill. No problem, here’s your refund. No problem.” I had a guy say, “I’ve been listening to your podcast for the past year or so and I was going to sign up for one of your programs but I decided to do another one instead." No problem. That’s totally great. "I love your work.” He said all these wonderful things to me and it was totally great like I was able to come from this total place of generosity with him and just continually wanting to give and give and give. I think that when you have something to give and you give of it freely, your payback, your benefit is that giving, is that experience, is that model of feeling generous in giving it, that in of itself.

When you deny yourself that you feel like I was feeling when I was holding back not giving because, “It’s mine and why would you take it and you’re entitled so I’m going to be entitled,” right? Let’s talk about this just so I can wrap my mind around it and maybe you guys can wrap your minds around it too. If you feel like someone is in your life and you feel like their expectation is that you always will be generous and that you will always pay or that you will always give away all of your material for free or that you should give more than you are giving, how do you want to respond to that? Do we want to shut down and be defensive or do we want to bloom into it? Because whenever someone is coming from that place of entitlement they’re coming from a place of scarcity themselves, they’re coming from a place of, “There isn’t enough,” or, “I don’t have enough money to pay you, Brooke,” or, “I don’t have enough money to split this bill,” or, “It needs to be fair,” right?

hg0088官方网站Whenever someone is coming from that place of scarcity we can either match them, right? We can drop into that place of scarcity as well and get upset about it or we can overcome that in that instance with generosity. I know for me if the opportunity is there between abundance and scarcity or generosity or stinginess, I always want to choose generosity for my own sake and let them deal with their feelings of entitlement or their feelings of things not being fair. Just be willing to be in the space of, “When I’m with you and there’s an opportunity for me to be generous, I will be generous but I wonder if then that relationship changes?” Because I was thinking about this with one, actually one of my students and we're talking about this and I was having her do some work for me.

hg0088官方网站I asked her, she had suggested that the work be done. I had asked her how much she would charge. She was trying to figure out how much she would charge and she came back with a certain number and I asked her, I said, “What would you charge me if you were already making a million dollars in your business? What would you charge me for this work?” and she said, “Oh, I wouldn’t charge you at all,” and I said, “Oh, that’s so interesting but because you’re coming from a place of more scarcity, you’re charging me this amount in an effort to kind of take care of your own self,” right? Isn’t that interesting? I think when you want to be generous you have to access and know what you have the ability to give. If you are in a space of abundance and believing that you have more than enough to give, you will show up in that way and then you will be identified in that way and what will happen is you will attract all of that to you.

hg0088官方网站I think that it’s important to remind yourselves that you have not just money to give and you can be very generous with your money but you also have your time, your energy, your kindness, your thoughtfulness, right? Your knowledge and you can give all of that very generously as well and really enjoy the benefits of having been generous in the world. I hope that you guys will take me up on this and play around with kind of the things that I struggle with sometimes which is releasing all expectations when you give and not allowing yourself to drop into resentment when someone feels entitled or expect them to act in a different or what you would call a better way and just let them absolutely be who they are. Don’t ever let someone else's behavior change who you want to be in the world. I personally want to be generous no matter what. No matter how the other person acts or the expectation. All right you guys, have a great week. I’ll talk to you next week. Bye- bye.

Thank you for listening to The Life Coach School Podcast. It is my honor to show up here every week and connect with people that are like-minded wanting to take their life to a deeper level with more awareness and more consciousness. If you are interested in taking this work to the next level, I highly encourage you to go to the LifeCoachSchool.com/howtofeelbetteronline. It is there that I have a class that will take all of this to a deeper application where you’ll be able to really feel and experience how all of these concepts can start showing up in your life. It’s one thing to learn intellectually, it’s another thing to truly apply it to your life. I will see you there. Thanks again for listening.


  1. hg0088官方网站Dear Brooke,

    hg0088官方网站first of all I’d like to thank you for the work you’re doing and the podcasts you’re proving to your audience for free! You are a fine coach!

    hg0088官方网站You know, I kinda”found you” and I truly believe it was meant to be. I am at a point in my life where I truly need to recalibrate many aspects of my life. Obviously I needed help with that and there you were! How amazing. The universe works:-) My bathroom mirror is full of post its with quotes from your show:-)) So again, thank you very much for helping and guiding me!!

    hg0088官方网站I was listening to podcast No 115/ generosity. I understood almost everything you were talking about, but here is my question I can’t find an answer to, although I played around with it as you suggested.

    This is what happended: A friend of mine asked me for help because she was feeling low for quite some time. So I suggested to use a sea salt soap in order to cleanse herself energetically. She really liked the idea but couldn’t find a store to get that very special soap. So I told her not to worry, I’d be happy to buy one for her and the next time we will see each other I will give it to her. So that was what I did. A week later I texted her with excitement that the soap had arrived and we scheduled to meet the following Sunday. She cancelled the meeting because she had missed her flight back home on that very Sunday. I already had a feeling that she would cancel because this is would she likes to do… anyway. No big deal I thought, we will find another date to meet. The thing is since then she never rescheduled a meeting with me in order to try out the soap. We have texted just yesterday but no word about the soap and no word about seeing each other again. OK, it is not supposed to happen, I told myself, she has probably totally forgotten about it….but it is still bugging me…. I can’t let go.

    You talk about releasing all expectations when we give. In my case when I give my money, my time, or when I provide a solution to a problem, or in this case a soap. I had no expectations to get the money back, not at all, I genuinely wanted to help her. So am I not even entitled to a “thank you for my effort”? I personally would acknowledge the other persons effort if it would be the other way round. That is perfectly normal for me and the right thing to do. But where is her respect for my commitment?

    And then you talk about the motive when we give and that we maybe want to control an outcome. What do I want to control here? Is the expectation of gratitude or acknowledgement the issue I want to control??? What am I not getting here?

    So next time when you do Q&As I would be very very happy if you could share your thoughts on my questions. It would be very much appreciated so that I can flash this peculiar pattern of thinking out of my system. Thank you so so much!!! Or you use my email address.

    PS: I am Austrian, I live in Vienna so please forgive me if not all my sentences are correctly written!
    PPS: I am a numerology expert in case you are wondering what I do professionally.
    PPPS: I would lovelovelove to write a review but I don’t know where???!! (I use Itunes)

    Kind Regards and all the best to you and your family!
    Have a great weekend!


    1. Hi Karin,

      Thank you for your question! Brooke will address this for you in an upcoming Questions & Answers episode. Stay tuned!

      PS – from iTunes, click on the “Ratings and Reviews” tab to write a review. Brooke certainly appreciates it!


  2. I loved this episode and agree with you 100% Brooke. I LOVE the feeling of generosity and being able to always come from a place of giving freely. I’ve actually learned that when I hold back or want to give $3 instead of $5 or ‘nickel and dime’ a bill – I am left with the feeling of scarcity and lack. And when I choose to be generous – it generates inside of me – the feeling of abundance and trust and knowing that there is always enough and always more. Thanks for another great episode!!

    1. Hi Dani,

      That’s a great example! Thank you for sharing and for the feedback. Brooke appreciates it.


  3. hg0088官方网站Hey Brooke!

    hg0088官方网站When I saw the title of the episode, it didn’t excite me too much, but I really loved hearing what you had to say about generosity. It really all does come back to your thoughts, doesn’t it? Your podcast has legit changed my life, and this episode got me thinking about how I want to give back to you. I am also so incredibly broke at the moment due to starting my biz, and the perfectionist in me kept telling myself that if I couldn’t afford the in-person training, I couldn’t purchase anything (which is so stupid #RecoveringPerfetionist). But I just bought two of your books on kindle ($10 for both is no problem), and I am so excited to see you have a payment plan for your How To Feel Better Class–I’m seriously going to consider doing that. Thanks again, Brooke!

    1. Hi Julie,

      So glad to hear that you have benefitted so much from Brooke’s podcast. You may also enjoy listening to Episode #24: Money Problems, where Brooke discusses scarcity and abundance and how our thinking directly influences them:


  4. Dear Brooke,
    I have finally written a review on iTunes! Here’s what I like so much about your podcasts – they are:
    – professional: show notes, transcripts, good sound, excellent content…
    – user-friendly: great examples, simple method (the Model), wonderful concepts…
    – life-changing: ever since I’ve used The Model, I can see my problems more clearly and I’ve been able to shed a few unwanted pounds and, even if it was not my priority (although it was my husband’s), I don’t yell at my family any longer. I’m more peaceful, calmer because I can watch the way I think and catch myself before I react.
    What’s more, I’m more compassionate because I also understand the way other people think: my family, my students…
    It has meant working on feelings A LOT because just a few years ago, I was still utterly convinced I didn’t have any, that they were for the weak (part of my upbringing but I’m now taking full responsibility for it).
    I’m no longer in the victim mentality and I’m very willing to feel vulnerable, sharing the news of a deceased beloved pet with my coworkers, learning hula-hoop and ballet (which makes me feel ridiculous at times but I’m working on new thoughts: “I’m learning how to become a ballerina”, “each mistake I make makes me a better ballerina”, “I welcome any obstacle’s lessons”…)
    The Model has helped me clear my thoughts.
    I’m no longer in emotional childhood and I take responsibility for my thoughts, feelings and actions.
    I do a Model every day, either for me or one member of my family. It’s always fascinating and I always end up with gems that serve me.
    So I can’t thank you enough for all the good you’re bringing into my life (and I’m definitely considering adding coaching skills to my English teaching…)!
    I’ve got two questions for you:
    1. I’d like to know what you think of guilt. Whenever I’m given anything I don’t expect and don’t feel I deserve, like a couple hours of free time, I feel guilty.
    2. What about lack versus abundance? How can we create an abundant mindset so as to be more comfortable, less selfish, less needy? I know my family and I tend to accumulate things “just in case”, as I used to store fat as energy, should I need it. How can we let go of this lack feeling?
    Thank you so much for your amazing work! And if you still need somebody to help with typos, I’d love to be the one!

    1. Hi Nan,

      Thank you so much for the iTunes Review and for sharing specifically how you have benefitted from Brooke’s podcast. Brooke really appreciates it!
      Brooke will answer your questions in an upcoming Questions & Answers episode. Stay tuned!


  5. There is always something I need to hear when I tune into your podcasts. THANK YOU! I need a different way to think of something and wondered if you might have a suggestion. I feel like I am generous with how much I love and want to do things and be with my husband. He has ADD and when he gets home he spends the evenings on his iphone playing games. I want to give of my time and affection generously like you talked about but I want that back. So I am conflicted. Should I want that same attention I give to him? Should I just give and not think about that he doesn’t give it to me like I want and give to him? I feel selfish. He is tired when he gets home and I feel I shouldn’t bother him. He works for our family. But I am having such a challenge with being OK with not really getting attention. I don’t need every minute but need some quality attention. Just need some guidance on a way to think differently about this.

    1. hg0088官方网站Great question, Sunnie! Brooke will address this for you in an upcoming Questions & Answers episode. Stay tuned!


  6. hg0088官方网站Your work is so helpful. I would love to hear more about friendship on your podcast. My friendships have changed as I have started using the model. It has caused some ugly fallout while still living in the same community/neigborhood. It is easy to suggest find new people and I am, but I was wondering if you have any insight on staying a healthy course while old friends around me are threatened and dislike my clearer self. I am not enjoying those people and I am not pursuing them but distancing myself is harder due to proximity. Thank you Brooke.

    1. Thank you for the feedback and topic suggestion, Kari. I’ve passed it along to Brooke.


  7. Great lessons here for parents in what is surely the ultimate act of generosity. I don’t always succeed but I do keep doing all I do as a parent without expectation of gratitude. Some days are more challenging than others, so this podcast will be played regularly!
    Thanks as always Brooke. (and I shared this podcast on the facebook:)

    1. So glad this episode resonated with you, David. And thank you for sharing it with others. Brooke appreciates it!


  8. Holy moly, Brooke. This one. Whew. Got me in the feels even more than usual.

    Here’s where I am. I am a married mother of two young, busy kids. I have a family member who, I believe, feels entitled to my time, and believes I am responsible for caring for her. Because of my familial and employment responsibilities, I do what I can for her when I can, but I don’t ever feel like it is enough. For example, she asks for me to go to the grocery, pick up a prescription, pick up other sundry items, and rearrange some furniture. I arrange for time to do those specific things, and while I am there she asks me to do 4 more things. It makes me feel like she is not respectful of my time and my other responsibilities, because she asks for more more more. I feel resentful, angry, frustrated, and it makes me want to do LESS, which is not at all how I want to feel. But because she is family, I feel responsible for this and I keep in this circle of doing more than I have arranged time for and feeling angry and resentful, when I want to feel generous with my time. Any suggestions here?

    Thank you!

    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Leslee,

      Brooke will address your question in an upcoming Questions & Answers episode. Stay tuned!


  9. Hi Brooke, So I discovered this amazing gift of a podcast a few weeks ago. I´ve been going through a metamorphasis recently. It started with a rocky patch in my relationship that forced me to look inwardly and deal with some personal things that until now (early 30´s) I have never really dealt with but thought I had. While looking through numerous blogs and articles aI came across someone who mentioned you as her favourite podcast and decided to look you up in case it could help me to. From the moment I started listening I felt so strongly about what you were saying, it felt like on some level you were speaking to my soul as I found myself nodding and agreeing and feeling like for the first time things were starting to make sense. After the first few podcasts when I had a good idea of what the show was about I started to move around and listen to ones that I felt were really relevant to me. I just want to say thank you. Thank you so much for what you do. You have changed my life. I have been able to deal with issues that I have desperately needed to put to bed for a long long time. What surprised me was that so many of the podcasts were so relevant to me. It wasn´t just one situation, the weight loss was linked to negative feelings which was linked to low self esteem which was linked to acceptance and so on. I still have a journey to go on but for the first time things are making sense, i´m so much happier and I know i´m headed in the right direction. I listened to this show on generosity and I wanted to leave you a comment and tell you about the difference you´ve made to me with your generosity. Thank you again so much.

    1. Hi Meg,

      Thank you so much for taking the time to provide us with your feedback. It’s so great to hear you are already benefitting so much from Brooke’s podcast. It means so much to her!


  10. Hi Brooke – thanks so much for a phenomenal podcast on generosity. I have been going through some related things with my family and just really needed to hear your exact advice on this area right now. I love your podcasts and will definitely participate in one of your paid programs to explore some areas more in depth. I would prefer to find the webinars on your site on a schedule than to be notified by email as I don’t check email very often. Thanks for your generosity and continuous incredible life coaching! Warmest regards, Lucy

    1. Thank you for the feedback. Brooke appreciates it. Glad to hear her podcast has been helping you during this time in your life. –Brecklyn

  11. A friend of mine told me about podcasts, before then I had heard of them, but did not know much about what they were. I down loaded a podcast app I down loaded a few all about well being. I then came across yours and wow I love it!!!! I have not subscribed to iTunes so I don’t know how to give you a review. So I thought I would post it on here instead.

    I just want to say a huge thank you for doing these podcasts. I absolutely love them and you have literally changed my life in so many ways! I have began from the beginning of your podcasts, only beginning maybe 2 months ago and listening to each one. I do models, I do thought downloads and I have also done a 10 year plan! Which I am so excited about!

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart

    1. hg0088官方网站Hello Jill,

      Thank you so much for the feedback. Brooke appreciates it. Glad to hear her podcast has been helping you!. –Lori