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Ep #44: A Year of Self-Coaching

A lot of our listeners mention in their comments that they love the content presented on the show. They love the concepts I talk about, they love The Model, it all sense to them, but when it comes to applying these concepts to their lives…they find it challenging. One of the questions I recently got from one of our listeners, Wesley, was: “How do you take all this self-coaching information and apply to your life on a regular basis?”

On this episode of Life Coach School, I lay out a plan that you can start using right now as a self-study to truly integrate everything that I teach you into a daily practice. As long as you are willing to really commit to a practice of self-development instead of just passively consuming information your life will improve dramatically! Grab a pen and paper and get ready to take some notes!

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What You will discover

  • The difference between passive action and massive action.
  • The importance of applying what you’ve learned.
  • How to break up a year-long committed program for ease of “consumption.”
  • What “Do Goals” are and how they help our progress.
  • My tip for getting truly committed to learning something.
  • The secret to everything you want to create in your life.

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Episode Transcript:

hg0088官方网站Welcome to the Life Coach School Podcast, where it's all about real clients, real problems, and real coaching. Now, your host, Master Coach Instructor, Brooke Castillo.

That's what's up. A couple podcasts back, I asked you guys to come and comment and to talk to me, like "Let's get a conversation going." You did. I was so excited. All of a sudden, I started getting all these comments, and talking to you guys, and having a connection, and seeing where you're from and who's listening out there. It was really awesome. For all of you that came and commented, I really do appreciate it. It means a lot to me. I love to hear your thoughts about the podcast. Sometimes it feels like I'm just talking into the air, so it was really nice to just have you guys give me some feedback there.

hg0088官方网站I also really appreciate those of you who have left a review on iTunes for me. I know it seems like your review is just one more and it won't matter, but it does matter to me, really, honestly. If you love the podcast and you're a long-time listener, or even if you just started it, I'd really appreciate a review on iTunes, just to feel that same connection.

hg0088官方网站All right. Today, we are going to talk about a year of self-coaching. One of the things that happens when you guys talk to me, when you tell me what you're liking about the podcast, what you're confused about, all of those things, is it gives me ideas for upcoming shows, and what I should talk about, and what you guys need more help with. One of the comments that I got was from Wesley and one of the things he asked me was, "How can I slow down and do this work on myself? I listen to what you say, and I understand your concepts. I really like the model, but applying it to myself and working on it is more challenging."

hg0088官方网站I've actually had a lot of people say that to me. They hear the concept of the model, and they like the concept of it. They really think it makes sense and it resonates with them, but then when it comes to applying it to their life, they have more of a challenge with it. The question is, how do you take all of this and apply it to your life, and how do you make a regular practice of it?

hg0088官方网站One of the things that I highly recommend is that you do a training. It doesn't have to be my training. It should be my training, but it doesn't have to be my training. You come with us for six days and dive into this training, you will never be the same. You will have a practice in your bones when you leave. Like I said, it can be any training where you really take yourself out of your life and you focus on life-coaching principles, and how to coach yourself, and how to apply these tools in an environment where it's forced application, where you're not just learning them but we actually practice them out loud, will really help.

hg0088官方网站I am going to give you a plan right now that you can do as a self-study to really integrate everything that I'm teaching you into a daily practice. Wesley, if you're willing to commit for a year, then your life will forever be changed. The first thing that I really want to help you understand is the difference between learning something, which is what I call passive action, and applying something until you get the result you want, which is what we call massive action. So many of us are into passive action. We like to consume, versus create.

Let me explain to you what that means, because I've been on both ends of that. Consuming means we learn. There is something about learning concepts that makes us feel like we're accomplishing something. It makes us feel like we are moving forward. It's important to understand that learning is a beautiful thing, but learning without application isn't taking any action in your own life. It's like buying the gym membership is a good thing, but you have to actually go to the gym. It's the same thing. Buying the material, listening to the podcasts, signing up for the training, all of that is a really good thing, but it won't impact your life until you start applying it.

hg0088官方网站Although there's a lot to learn, I want to make sure that you are at least doing equal parts learning and applying. Most of us do about 90 percent learning and 10 percent applying. I've talked about this in other podcasts, where when you sign up for a training, or when you read a book, or when you learn a new concept, if you can take what you are learning and commit to it and commit to applying it with no questions asked, you will have such a different experience than if you just learn it.

One of the things that you can do, and I highly recommend you all do for this podcast, is to listen to what I'm teaching you, to listen to the concepts, and then to make a plan on how to apply them or practice them in your life. The way that this podcast is set up is beautiful for that. You have your lesson that you get when you listen to the podcast. Many of you, I know, listen to it more than once, each concept. You get that concept, you listen to it, and then you have seven days until I give you another one. If you would only take that one concept that I'm teaching you and apply it for seven days, then you could be ready to move onto the next one.

hg0088官方网站For example, what I'm going to teach you in this podcast is the difference, what I have taught you already, is the difference between passive action and massive action, so learning something versus applying something. One of the things you could do is look at your life and see all of the things that you've learned, all the books that you've read, all of the concepts that you are currently consuming, and compare that to how much you're actually applying what you've learned. Are you simply reading recipes, so to speak, and never making the meal? It's one thing to read a recipe and to say, "Wow, I could be a really good cook." It's another thing to make the recipe 10 times.

hg0088官方网站It's a cool concept to think about it in that way. One of the things that I talk a lot about are "do" goals. What is the action that you could take that would make success inevitable? If you want to get one new client, if you talked to 100 clients, chances are you're going to get one client. Your commitment may be, "I want to get one new client," but then your action goal, your massive action goal, may be to talk to 100 people.

It's the same with, for example, a recipe. If you think about each of these podcasts, any of my books, any of my trainings, as recipes, are you just reading the recipe, or are you cooking the meal? If I gave you a challenging recipe, something that you didn't quite understand how to make, you could ask me lots of questions about it. You could read it many times, but you're not going to really get the effect of the recipe, which means the food and the taste of the food, if you don't cook the food and do what I'm calling you to do in the recipe.
hg0088官方网站 If you were to make the same recipe, let's say, every single day for 30 days, you would probably be pretty good at making whatever that recipe is. Let's say it's chicken parmesan. If you made chicken parmesan ... First of all, if you like chicken parmesan, Martha Stewart's recipe is ridiculous. This is just a little side note. Whenever you have a make a meal for someone when they're going through a hard time or they just had a baby, Martha Stewart's chicken parmesan. Everyone will love you for the rest of your life.

Anyway. If you want to learn how to make it really well, you want to practice it. "What are the best techniques? How can I perfect it? Ooh, next time, I'm going to use a little more salt. Next time, I'm not going to crisp it up so much. Next time, I'm going to use different breadcrumbs." Whatever it is, you practice, you practice, you practice. At the end of 30 days, you're going to know how to make some chicken parmesan.

The first time you make it, it may be a mess. You may not even think you like the taste of it. Same with using the model. The first time you use it, you may be like, "I don't know about this. This is really complicated." Then you do it again, and then you do it again, and then you do it again. Then you do a model every day for 30 days, and you understand the effect that that can have on you, just that awareness of creating and understanding your own models in your life.

One of the things that I would recommend that you do with any of my material is to not just read it. It's to study it. This is actually something in my own practice that I've been doing a lot of. It's really important for, I think, all of you to do in your own personal self-development practice, is to limit the amount of teachers that you're studying. Not because they're not all amazing and not because they aren't all great, but because if you have too many teachers, you're going to end up doing more consuming that you are applying. If you're learning from this teacher, and that teacher, and this teacher, and that teacher, you don't have as much time to apply what they're teaching you.

hg0088官方网站One of the reasons why I think I've been able to be very successful in my own self-development is by limiting the amount of teachers at any one time and studying them. One of the things that I'm working on right now in my school is master coach training. I do master coach training once a year, and I'm creating the curriculum for it right now. One of the most important pieces of that curriculum this year is not going to be introducing a lot of new material, but basically studying the teachers and the concepts that we already know, but really studying them and really applying them in new ways.

hg0088官方网站That is something that I want to recommend for you guys who are trying to learn my material and the way that I teach it, is not just to learn it and to listen to it and to consume it, but to create it in your life. If you're going to study me and you're going to study some of the teachers that I've recommended to you, or you have other people on your list that you're studying, I highly recommend you study a lot of people, but you study. You don't just consume everybody's stuff. You actually apply it.

hg0088官方网站One of the things that is always fascinating to me is when people say that they've read one of my books, for example, If I'm So Smart, Why Can't I Lose Weight? They'll say, "Oh, I read that book, and I loved it. It really made sense to me, but it didn't work for me." I'll say, "The book doesn't work. The book just sits there with its pages. It doesn't do anything for us. You have to work. You have to do what the book says to do. You have to apply the concepts to your life. The book doesn't work, but you do." That's true for all of my teachings and all of the teachings of any other teachers that you're going to learn from, that their philosophy doesn't work or not work, but you do, and you apply it to your life.

One of the things that I want to recommend, if you want a year-long practice, Wesley, is you go through the beginning of this podcast and you listen, or you can start today. Take this podcast, and let this be your number one. You take the concepts in it, and you start applying them. You work on applying them to your life every day for seven days. One of the things that can be really useful and helpful is to set aside some time, an appointment every day, to work on this sort of thing.

A lot of us don't feel like our self-development should be an important, scheduled thing in our life. It's just something that happens on the side. When I see my clients make the most impact in their own life is when they decide that it's not just going to be a side dish anymore. It's going to be the main course. "My self-development is going to come first. My emotional life is going to come first. The way I think, the way I work in my life, in my mind, and in my feelings, and in my actions, is going to be first." When you make that your priority, then you'll notice everything else benefits. Every other thing that you do becomes easier because of the work that you've done on your own mind in the beginning. I would schedule time for just doing that.

hg0088官方网站If you're going to spend an hour every day doing it, I would recommend, if you really still want to learn, that you spend half the time learning and half the time creating that learning in your life, having it come alive in your life. One of the things that I really want to recommend to you is that you do it on paper, that you write it down. For some of you, it's in your iPhone or on your iPad or in your computer. Your write it down. You get it out of your brain so you can have a look at it, whatever it is you're working towards. If you have a goal in your life that you want, making sure you write that goal down, making sure you see any thoughts that are coming up around it that you need to work towards, that you need to work on.

The other thing that I want to recommend, if you want to do a year-long committed program, is that you do your goal work in 90-day increments. You have 90 days where you have an outcome that you want to focus on. For example, the goal may be that you want to build your business by five clients in 90 days, or maybe it is that you want to lose 10 pounds in 90 days, whatever. You have this outcome goal. Then what you do is you create your "do" goals, the things that you're going to do to make sure that that happens.

hg0088官方网站I'm working with a client right now who her goal is she wants to eliminate fog eating. For those of you who don't know, fog eating is when you eat without consciousness, when you eat behind your own back. She wants to eliminate that from her life, and she does quite a bit of it. One of the things that she set for herself is a 90-day goal of no fog eating. What we did together was we broke it down into two-week increments. You break down your year into 90 days, and then you break down your "do" goals into two-week increments. What that does for you is it gives you some measurable ways of seeing your accomplishment and of keeping you focused, because our mind can focus in those short increments.

hg0088官方网站If you want to break it down into two weeks for that specific goal, it may be that you don't want to fog eat. It may be that you don't want to give in to your anger. It may be that you want to manage your frustration better. Whatever it is, create a practice that will help you do that. A "do" goal may seem complicated when you have an issue like ... Let's say you give in to frustration a lot. You're like, "How do I have a goal that allows me to work on that?" That's a really good question.

hg0088官方网站What you need to do is you need to monitor very carefully and pay attention to how often you're getting frustrated and why. What are you thinking about that's getting frustrated? That's that awareness piece. Then, you practice acceptance. How do you practice that? How do you be the watcher in your own life and pay attention in your own life in a way that fills you with compassion? I find the best way to do that in the beginning is to schedule it, to schedule the time to do that. That may sound like, "What do you mean? I'm going to be scheduling the time to accept that I'm frustrated?" Yes. Then from there, you can start to change it.

hg0088官方网站I know that many of you want to get to the quick fix, but you need to practice that deliberate practice of paying attention to yourself with compassion. You cannot skip that part. Many of you have written in to me wanting to skip that part. You can't, because you have to learn the practice of being within negative emotion.

hg0088官方网站One of the goals that I'd been working with with my client is she really wants to stop fog eating. You have to understand, "Okay, so if you want to stop fog eating, why are you fog eating in the first place?" "It's to avoid negative emotion." "Why do you want to avoid negative emotion?" "Because I don't have the ability to experience it. I only have the ability to resist it." Then we have to practice experiencing negative emotion. Doesn't that sound fantastic? "Hey, let's practice experiencing negative emotion."

What happens when you do that is you get good at it. That's your "do" goal. "I am willing to experience negative emotion five times today, five times this week. In the past, I've fog eaten five times instead of feeling. This week, I'm going to feel five times, practice feeling. I'm going to accumulate moments of feeling negative emotion instead of fog eating. That's how you set up those "do" goals for yourself. At the end of two weeks, you've accomplished, "Hey, in the past two weeks, I have felt negative emotion 10 times. Ten times, I was able to go into the negative emotion and feel it instead of fog eating." Then I have my win. I have my accomplishment. Then I set another two-week practice for myself.

If you're willing to do that, one of the things that has made a huge impact on me this year, and I've talked about this on the podcast before, is focusing on one thing you want to change, one thing you want to create, one thing. That whole concept of whatever is essential, what is the most important thing right now for me? When you focus on that one thing, and you put all your energy into it, and you write a 90-day goal for it, and then you write two-week "do" goals for that, you're going to feel yourself moving. You're going to start getting some momentum, because you're going to be able to get yourself some wins. Those wins will feel like that accomplishment, which will make you want to do more.

hg0088官方网站There is some discipline involved. I think a lot of us, we want to be more vague. We don't want to be specific. We don't want something to be measurable. We just want to say, "Oh, I'll try to fog eat less," instead of, "I'm going to feel five times. I'm going to accumulate five times where I wanted to eat and I felt my feelings instead." That's a very different approach than, "I'm just going to eliminate fog eating," because it's something that you're actually creating. You're creating moments of feeling. You're creating moments of processing an emotion instead of avoiding an emotion. All of a sudden, you have a goal of creating something and doing something, versus just stopping something. That makes a huge difference.

The other thing that I think is important for us as we're developing a year-long practice is we're going to really focus in on ... The first thing we're going to do is really focus in on evening out our consuming versus applying. The next thing we're going to do is break everything down into 90 days and then two-week "do" goals within those 90 days, or the one-week focus for, say, if you're going to do it with the podcast and keep your mind focused on that one thing, so you can have some wins and build some momentum for it.

Then the other thing that I think is really important when you're thinking about creating a practice is a ritual that you have for yourself. We talked a little bit about scheduling that time, but also, how are you going to hold the space for yourself on a regular basis to make sure you're paying attention to your mind, you're reconnecting? If you're unwilling to do the work, what are you going to do when you're unwilling? What are you going to do to get yourself into that practice?

For some people, when they start wanting to do an exercise practice, they sign up for a yoga class or they sign up for a workout class. Then they have this time commitment that they go to. Then they may notice, "Oh, wait a minute. I'm not showing up for that class anymore. I'm making excuses. I'm not going." Having a plan for that time, having a plan for the inevitable obstacle that will be "Life is going to get in the way, and I'm going to make excuses." If you can anticipate that ahead of time, then you can plan for it and literally have a plan for your own escape route. You know you're going to try and do a little shimmy to get out of your commitment to yourself. You already have a plan for it. You've already anticipated it. It's like you know yourself at your own game.

hg0088官方网站I will say that I think making a commitment and honoring that commitment to self-discovery, to self-evolvement, that process in and of itself is its own self-development. It's this double whammy. You've made the commitment to yourself, and then the process of keeping that commitment is part of self-coaching. It is part of learning about yourself. It's the same thing with, for those of you who are listening who are life coaches, building your business is its own process of self-discovery. Being an entrepreneur brings up all that stuff for you.

hg0088官方网站That's the other thing that I really want you to see, is that if you take this very seriously, committing to a year of self-coaching, which is what you've asked about, and having a really clear plan and sticking to that plan, then that process of staying committed to it will be an added bonus of doing it in the first place.

I just want to add one last piece as it applies to my work. I have all of these podcasts that are available to you. I also have on the website and on YouTube a bunch of videos that complement this work that I'm doing for you here for free. I also do lots of free webinars, and I do a free coaching call every other week. There are so many free resources for you out here that I want to make sure that you know you can utilize.

I think sometimes when things are free, we don't apply them as much as if we were paying for them. I want to really encourage you not to do that. If you're going to focus in on, "Hey, I'm going to focus in on what Brooke Castillo is teaching at the Life Coach School. I'm going to give my attention to that for the next 90 days." Maybe you have a different teacher every 90 days that you really zone in on learning from. That you take all of the information, whether it's free or you've paid for it, and you treat it as if you paid 5,000 dollars for it.

If this podcast cost you 5,000 dollars, what would you do to pay attention to it more and apply? If I said, "I guarantee you this is worth 5,000 dollars. If you apply what I'm teaching here, your life will change or I'll give you your money back," you'd be like, "What is she saying? Why is she saying it? I'm going to do everything she says." I think that level of commitment, first of all, you have to really believe in what I'm teaching. Once you really believe in it and it resonates with you, then, are you willing to make the commitment? Are you willing to go into the deep study?

I've told you guys before I'm working with a business coach. A lot of the things that he tells me to do I want to resist, and I want to say that I know that already, or "I know better," or "You don't understand." I notice all of that noise that goes on in my brain, but I've committed to doing everything that he suggests that I do without question, 100 percent. I've signed up. I've paid my money. I'm going all in. I expect that my brain will resist. I expect that my brain will want to be confused and that will want to say "I don't know." That's all part of the deal.

hg0088官方网站That's true for you all, too. As you're learning this new material, you may feel like, "I don't get it. I don't know what she's saying. It's so hard for me to apply." That's all part of the deal. If you recommit and you are willing to go through the process of doing this, then I guarantee that it'll be worth way more than 5,000 dollars, 10,000 dollars, 100,000 dollars, because managing your mind and managing your emotional life, and driving your action towards the direction of what you want to achieve in your life, is the secret to everything you want. Everything you want to create in your life is right there contained in those basic truths. The only thing you have to do is commit to them.

hg0088官方网站If you've been committed and if you've been working on this, and if you've been doing it in a way that's consistent, and you haven't got the results you want, you just haven't been doing it long enough. All that means is that you just have to stick with it. It's a beautiful thing. If you don't feel like you're doing it right, you can reach out and get help from me on the comments, or you can find a coach and hire them to help you with this process. I do promise you, if you commit and you stay focused, and you don't just sit and learn what I'm teaching you but you focus on applying it to your life, then your life won't be able to stay the same, because you will be directing it with much more authority toward the direction that you want.

Anyway, that is my suggestion for a year-long practice. I've given you some different variables there that you can jump in to. I hope that answers your question, and I really hope that all of you listening will really consider doing the same thing that Wesley's going to do, really committing to a practice of self-development. Not just as a way to passively consume different information, which is important, but to also apply it to your life and see how powerful you really are when it comes to creating the results you want. I will talk to you all next week. Take this next seven days, and rock it out. See you then. Bye.

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  1. hg0088官方网站This podcast tied so many concepts together into a really great plan I can schedule into my everyday life. Thank you for making it all your podcasts free. I worried for quite a while that you would quit making the podcasts or start charging for them, and I’m an out of work student right now, so I feel so grateful to you for giving me these weekly presents!

  2. Hi brooke,
    I’m from yemen and i listen to your podcasts.
    I love them so much.
    Thank you for your efforts.


  3. Brooke, I really loved this episode. Specifically the part about not being a consumer of information but to limit the number of teachers and spend time reading and then spending time absorbing it. I realized there is sooooo much free and amazing information on podcasts that it is like drinking through a fire hose. The list of podcasts I have on my phone are way more than I have time to listen. So I am loving your idea of limiting the number of teachers, but go deeper.

    Based on past episodes of your podcast, I have designed a morning routine that includes a specified amount of time for meditation, reading a spiritual book and listening to a business podcast, practicing the thoughts I want to be thinking to be successful and reading and visualizing my goals. It has really given me more enthusiasm to get out of bed each day. I have been doing this for about a month pretty regularly. I especially love the list of thoughts I want to be thinking for a better present and future. I look forward to working with you in March!

  4. Thank you, BC. I said it to you privately by email and I’ll say it again here: I’m committed to a year of practice and study. I am the King of Passive Action, but I’ve been making a shift toward more Massive action in 2015 and that has accelerated since I found you and your work last month.

    I’m up to the Tony Robbins show and I jumped ahead to this one because I couldn’t resist.

    hg0088官方网站Love the idea of 7 day practice blocks and will begin my first one tomorrow morning. Will keep you posted along the way.



  5. Hi Brooke Castillo,
    I’ve been hooked on you since the Goal setting and Failing episodes (I went right out and did a job interview, and did not get the job!) I listened to last September! You are my night shift commuting buddy, thought you should know. I love, love, love that this episode called me and my egg-head out. I am that person who goes to the bookstore/amazon and buys 3-5 self help books.

    hg0088官方网站I am just laughing at myself now, in a good way. So I took a deep breath and I started on episode one (again) and I am spending this week on it!! I cannot tell you how much I WANT to listen to more episodes instead. I am completely okay with feeling this awkward and uncomfortable because this move has been a long time coming (and I practice experiencing negative emotion too).

    hg0088官方网站Thanks so much Brooke for reading my mind and for you Wesley for being my lost twin!

    hg0088官方网站Take care, B

    1. Belinda!

      hg0088官方网站Thank you so much for listening and applying.

      hg0088官方网站Keep at it for sure!


  6. I’m all set. Seven-day practice/application blocks. Deeper, slower study of my favorite teachers. It’s on! I’m 54 and ready to rock this.



  7. hg0088官方网站Hi Brooke!! Just want to say you have seriously changed my life over the last three months. I have been in love with Tony Robbins and Stephen R Covey and Dale Carnegie my whole adult life but reading books is simply not the same as listening to solid models and methodologies live. This past holiday season I made a pact that I was going to take my passions and create something of my own (blog,book,training whatever) using the skills and expertise that I have have obtained over my life. I wasn’t sure where to start but I was looking through podcasts about life coaching to inspire me and hated everything I found… Until I found yours! your style just speaks to me and the model you created just works for me and helps me tie so many other things I have learned together. I also love your conference calls! Now I have a website and am building some trainings to help others in my field and I can’t thank you enough for putting yourself out there for us! I really hope to attend one of your offsites one day!! ️Xoxo

    1. Melissa!

      hg0088官方网站Thank you so much for letting me know. It means the world to me.

      hg0088官方网站Love that you are chasing your dream!



  8. I have read your book…If I’m so smart….several times…I’ve marked the principles…I’ve put in cute stickers….I love the information…it rings so true. This call…has called to me to put it into my life…Maybe I can use the stickers to keep track of my “do-goals”… My world is full of things I’ve studied…and some I practice. Thank you… again

  9. Hi Brooke, I’m going to take your advice and study your podcasts (and only yours) for a few months or so. I’ve already listened to many of your episodes, but I can’t seem to find if you’ve done one on cultivating self-confidence. If not, I’d like to suggest that as a topic. That’s the biggest thing I want to focus on right now, so I’m trying to come up with some goals surrounding it, and I’d really like your take on the topic.

    1. Hey Amanda,

      Stay tuned! I will address Self Confidence on an upcoming episode!

      hg0088官方网站Thanks for listening.


  10. Loved the suggestions you made in this podcast.

    After listening I realized a couple things about my approach that could be contributing to the fact that I am not getting anywhere on my goals. First, I have been listening to too many teachers. I typically have two to three self help books going at once. It is like having Self Help ADHD. I spend more time shifting from one concept to another, I am not letting anything sink in.
    Second, I am spending all my time consuming and no planned time applying. Your definition of passive and massive action as well as your analogy to reading and actually making a recipe really hit home.
    Therefore, I developed a year plan and selected a teacher for 90 day increments. I am using my Rule My World time every morning to not only consume but create the concepts in my life.
    Thanks for the wise direction. $5000 is way underselling yourself

    1. Hi DeAnn,

      I’m so glad to hear this podcast resonated with you and that you are now spending more time applying the concepts learned!


  11. Oops! Almost forgot. You are my first selected teacher. I have loved your podcasts so much. I am anxious to study them and do a deep dive into application.

  12. Thank you so much Brooke! You really have a big heart to offer such great learning platform for everyone of us and I’m truly grateful to your generosity. I’ve been learning lots from your podcasts and they keep me motivated to stay in the game! I will continue to apply them to my everyday life as I know this is such an important step to go through before generating more values to my future coaching practice.

  13. I love your podcasts and recommend them often. You have such a practical way of making complex things clear and comprehensible. I have spent too much time trying to avoid negative emotion but because of your podcasts, I am now comfortable experiencing them. It is SO freeing. Thank you Thank you Thank you!

    1. Hi LJB,

      Thank you so much for the feedback! Brooke certainly appreciates it.

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  14. Dear Brooke, I discovered your podcast only a few weeks and was trying to madly catch up with so much goodness: I was listening to 2 podcasts a day (on my way to and from work). A happy addiction. Sometimes I would even rush my daughter out of the car on her way to school, so that I could put my head sets on and drive to work. A happy addiction?
    From today, it’s one a week. Go deeper and put into practice. I am a fantastic planner, but when it comes to my business often planning is all I do.
    I love this challenge. Thank you so mcuh.
    hg0088官方网站 Elisabetta

    1. Thank you for the feedback, Elisabetta. So happy to hear you are already getting so much from Brooke’s podcast.


  15. hg0088官方网站I walked into work this morning and an e-mail popped in my inbox. I have been thinking of doing a course in Life Coaching and tour web site have been an inspiration to me this morning.

    I have read a few of your transcripts and I am impressed!

    hg0088官方网站Many thanks


  16. So all these resources, podcasts that Brooke has out here are so AWESOME and I can’t thank y’all enough for these. These are really mind opening and have hit me in a way that I’m a little surprised by. I’m so impressed with Brooke and her distillation of these amazing concepts, and all the while she’s so funny and so approachable.
    hg0088官方网站 I have a little question about Do Goals. Can a Do Goal be something like: “Spend 2 hours a day working on this program/presentation” since doing so would result in a complete program/presentation? If I did this, success (tangible result) would be inevitable. Am I thinking about this correctly?

    1. Thank you for the feedback, Bobbie! And great question about Do Goals. Brooke will answer this for you in an upcoming Questions & Answers episode. Stay tuned!


  17. hg0088官方网站Brooke, I have started listening to your podcasts in just the last few months. Thank you for clearly spelling out such wonderful life coaching that truly speaks to me! I am changing the way I am in work, with my family and friends! I am one of those listeners that often listens more than once to really learn the material. When you talk about applying and not just consuming, how do you suggest I schedule this? I am always so excited to hear the next podcast (I am 44 episodes in) that I know I don’t do enough applying… thank you for all you do. You are such a gift to women like me!!!

    1. Hi Cyndi,

      hg0088官方网站Thank you for your question! Brooke will address this in an upcoming Questions & Answers episode. Stay tuned!


  18. Hi Brooke!
    I listen to your show when I’m in a funk, when I’m feeling good, or when I’m just in between. You have such a wonderful vocal cadence and you’re so easy-going that it feels like a friend sitting in the car with me when I’m on my commute.
    Though I have loved many other episodes, the action-oriented advice in this one has really struck me. So, question – (maybe you’ve answered it already? there are so many episodes and comments to go through) for the 90 day plan, would you strictly recommend only picking one goal to focus on? My gut says that you’ll say yes, only pick one main goal so that I can really focus on it. I wonder if there’s some sort of staged approach that you’ve seen people do that works — like, starting another 90-day process when someone is already 2 weeks into a previous goal.
    thank you so much for this wonderful podcast!

    1. Thank you for your question, Lilia. Brooke will address this in an upcoming Questions and Answers episode.


  19. Hi Brooke,
    I recently started listening to your podcast and love it. I was first introduced to you on the Jess Lively Show and got hooked. I have gone back to the beginning with Episode #1 and have been working my way through the shows one by one. This episode really struck a chord. I love all the lessons and concepts in each show but haven’t been really putting them into practice because I keep moving on to the next one trying to catch up. You mentioned using the 7 days between shows to practice applying the concepts. If I do this, then I feel like I will never catch up to your current episode. At the same time, I feel like I am constantly consuming but not applying anything to a depth that will truly make a difference. Any thoughts/suggestions to change my thinking?
    I’m also writing a blog post about my favourite podcasts and would like to include The Life Coach School podcast because I enjoy it so much. I don’t know if I need your permission to mention you in my article and include a link to your show, but wanted to let you know anyway as a professional courtesy.
    Thank you so much for doing what you do.

    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Colleen, Glad you found Brooke’s podcast and are enjoying it! Brooke may address your question in an upcoming Questions & Answers podcast. Brooke also offers the Self Coaching Scholars program to help students apply the material from the podcast. You can find more info here: . –Rebekah

  20. Hi Brooke!

    hg0088官方网站I love your work but I hope it’s ok I get straight into the question. Do you have any suggestions on the contingency plan you make for when you know you’ll want to make excuses to not commit? Reading your goals and emotion generating thoughts first thing in the morning could be good but would love to hear any examples you’ve come across from previous clients or your own.


    1. Great question, Katy! Brooke may address this in an upcoming Questions & Answers podcast. Stay tuned!

  21. hg0088官方网站Hi Brooke, I’ve been listening to your podcast in order, so I’m all the way back here in 2015 (I think!) I hope commenting on an old episode will still manage to get to you.

    hg0088官方网站My question is this: this morning I did a thought download and it was all good stuff! Lots of positive thoughts and lots of motivation. Should I still do a model on these thoughts? And if so, what is the aim of it if I don’t want to change?

    1. Thank you for sharing, Hanna. Brooke may address this in an upcoming Questions & Answers podcast. Stay tuned!

  22. Hi Brooke!

    I recently found your podcast and I started from the beginning and am working my way up. This was the episode I listened to on my way to grab lunch today (you’re in my ears every time I get in my car). I’ve got to tell you, you put me right in my place with this one. I’ve been listening to you say, “You need to do the work to see the results you want,” and then I think to myself, “Yep, she knows me. Keep telling me till I do it, girl!” Whelp. This episode was a come-to-Jesus talk. So I decided to go through the model before I went to bed and it kind of turned into being both a thought download and a pick-me-up. You’ll see what I mean. I decided to start with the most intense unknown in my life right now: When are my husband’s immigration documents coming in (*work visa*, green card, travel permit, etc)? I’ve copied and pasted it below:

    Circumstance: Husband’s documents have taken over 140 days to be processed so far. I will be the first in my family to graduate college on May 12, 2018 with a degree in Astrophysics. Also, my current job has an end date of May 31.
    Thought: I’m going to continue being the only one employed until I’m not anymore, at which point I may have a job or I may not have a job. At that point, I’ll either still be the only one working, or neither of us will be working. Our survival will depend on my ability to find a job, which means it’s possible I’ll settle for something that’s not exactly what I’m looking for and either continue to job hunt or possibly become complacent in my job and use that as leverage to live a life of unfulfillment.
    Feeling: Anxiety, hopelessness, dread, PRESSURE
    Action: Avoid, avoid, avoid. And procrastinate.
    Result: Either continue to job hunt or possibly become complacent in my job and use that as leverage to live a life of unfulfillment.

    And then I was like, “Girl, you have way too many thoughts. And I’m worried about your health.” So I decided to try it again- same circumstances, different thoughts and this is what happened:

    Circumstance: Husband’s documents have taken over 140 days to be processed so far. I will be the first in my family to graduate college on May 12, 2018 with a degree in Astrophysics. Also, my current job has an end date of May 31.
    Thought: I have 14 business days after graduation to not only get AS MANY hours in as possible so we can save up for a time when we may not have income flowing, but also to do intense job hunting and interviewing without the lurking thought of the assignments I have yet to complete (because I’ll be DONE!!). Also as a result of being done with school, I’ll have time to devote to my passion and side-hustle, furniture designing, creating, building, and refurbishing, which hopefully will bring in some extra $$$. Also, husband can be working on that during the day while I’m working. I think I’ll mention that to him next week (Great idea, self!). And they say the best things are worth the wait. So I can only imagine how great it’s going to be when his work permit arrives and he becomes employed because we’ve been waiting on this a loooong time.
    Feeling: Encouraged, motivated, excited, giddy, thankful
    Action: Hu$tlin’
    Result: Amazingness

    hg0088官方网站So I’m pretty sure that I’ll keep doing these after seeing what my brain looks like on paper. Keep on with the come-to-Jesus talks. And THANK YOU!

  23. I’ve been listening to your beautiful podcast for the past couple of months. I recently inherited a long commute and have found the time optimal for personal growth and self exploration.
    I’m amazed at what I’ve learned in just a short amount of time. I’ve always prided myself in living a healthy physical and mental life. I knew I was on the right track but I could never put what I do into a framework. Your self coaching model has helped me see why cognitive work is so effective. Most of what I’ve learned in my 34 years on this planet came from my education in psychology (I have a master’s degree in clinical psychology) and my work as an elementary school counselor. Combined with random life challenges and some therapy sessions, I’ve come to a very good place in managing my mind and emotions. Listening to all of your strategies and stories has brought my self-awareness to the next level, and I’m so grateful for that!
    We share some of the same teachers, including Eckhart Tolle (I’m only a few episodes away from that one!). You also reference Lousie Hay- whose affirmations I listen to at times when I want to feel like I have a wise sweet grandmother telling me everything is going to be okay.
    At the very foundation of my life philosophy, however, is Viktor Frankl and his contributions to existential psychology. I’m wondering if he is one of your teachers as well? So many of his teachings center around the fact that no matter the circumstances around us, we always have a choice. That choice lies in how we think about the situation (our attitude about it). His theory was inspired by the tremendous suffering and amazing survivors of the concentration camps. The triad of his teaching is choice-freedom-responsibility. This sound so much like the many lessons you have already taught me.
    I would love to hear back from you. Thank you for all that you do in making this world a better place.

    1. hg0088官方网站Hi Erica, Thank you so much for the feedback! Brooke appreciates it very much. I am not sure if Viktor Frankl is one of Brooke’s teachers. Thank you for the suggestion! –Felicia